Concerned

[Shaufree]

I have a son who is 3 years 5 months old. I have currently started working full time, and have him with a babysitter during the days. The first six months of me working full time my husband was able to stay home with him so it wasn't so bad, but now my husband has gone back to work as well.

My husband and I have a hard time dropping him off with our sitter as he starts to cry. He was very excited to go the first few days, but it seems he gets worse and worse before going each time. What bothers me the most is that he has had two pooping accidents and one peeing accident (he is very very well potty trained and is very comfortable with himself and the toilet) he dislikes being wet with a passion. This is not like him at all. Even if we are in the mall , the park or the swimming pool, he always lets us know. He will even go as far to pee in the trees, if we are to slow lol

We did not discipline these accidents either, we simply got him clean and reminded him to let us know next time or try to make it to the potty. He had a very relaxed potty training that was super easy. He has an older brother that is five, which contributed to the easier training.

The first time he pooped was at his sitters, then that evening at home. What was odd, was that he didn't seem to mind at all, he looked so spaced out. Then the next day he peed his pants  he took his pants off and went to the toilet himself  to just sit. I am really concerned, i can not get an appointment with a doctor for another two weeks.

I am very worried about him, as now he wont let me go anywhere when we are home. (he follows me like a shadow) He is up at night a lot now, he needs to be comforted all the time it seems. He wont sleep alone, and he is continuously crawling back into bed with us. He looks exhausted, and very spaced out as of late :( Its as if he has withdrawn within himself a lot.

He is a very sweet well natured child, he is very sensitive to everything.He is eating less and hes looking a little dark under the eyes. I need advice :(

[Shaufree]

I took some time off work, and my brothers wife is now going to watch him, we have also enrolled him in a "Now I'm three" program.  He loves the now I'm three program and plays well with the other children. His checkups with his doctor have been good :)

Just from being home the last two weeks and going to his aunties ( whom he adores) he has bounced back to being super happy.

He went once the first week he couldn't wait for the next week, so i let him go twice this last week lol. He has a cousin his age there to play with and they play well together. Not to mention when his uncle is home they get to go on the quad or do boy stuff lol

He is still getting up once and a while at night, but we are working on that, he hasn't had any more accidents since. But one day at a time I am in no rush!

So far so good.  Thank you!

[RockRose]

I don't know if anything at all bad is happening at daycare that you can point to,  but he's clearly miserable.  

He's only got a year and a half til kindergarten.  Can you quit during that time and be with him?  I wouldn't be so concerned about the bathroom accidents as I would be concerned about the appearance that he is completely unhappy and insecure.