Daughter is peeing herself but only during the day.

[Dont_know_what_to_do_HELP]

I have a 7 year old daughter she has accidents all the time. She'll come home from school smelling awful. And the will be wet spots on chairs when she stands up. At I tell her to go change her clothes she doesn't have any more accidents. She only does it doing the day, but only until I team her she smells like pee. She keeps trying to say she doesn't know she's peeing herself but if that was the case she's would still pee herself after I've told her she smells of pee. She doesn't pee herself at night so I know she can control her bladder. I'm at my wits end. I can't get the smell out of her clothes and I'm not gonna reward her with new clothes for peeing herself. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm not sure if I should put her in pull ups or not. But I can't take it anymore I don't want me to smell like pee all the time! Help! If I have to put her in pull ups what size would you recommend for a girl who wears size 10/12?

[likethat]

Two things: the first may be that she's afraid to ask to go to the bathroom when she needs to or the teacher is refusing because she/he doesn't want to be bothered with monitoring how long she's gone, if she's returned, etc. It sounds crazy that they would do that, but with 6 children, nothing that happens at school sunrises me anymore sadly. So I'd start with speaking to her teacher and if you don't get resolution, escalate until you do IF you rule out the second possibility and that is that she leaks. But you said this doesn't happen at home, on weekends, during school breaks, etc. Just at school? Then I'd guess it's the first problem.

As for pull-ups, they do make them for kids that big, called Good Nights. But that would be humiliating for her and it is very likely to cause diaper rash sitting in a wet pull up all day. Double up her underwear, cotton only, and work something out with the teacher to maybe ask her discreetly to go to the restroom once an hour to see if that helps. The next time you take her to the pediatrician for a check up, mention this to her/him and explain what you've worked out with the teacher and that it's only during school, never at home, never on weekends, never on school break and see what they suggest.

(PS: Don't worry, your question is completely understandable, there's one auto-correct but it didn't make the question incomprehensible ;>)

[specialmom]

Hi, ah, I'm sorry about this.  For everyone.  First, I wouldn't be angry with her--  although I know it is tempting.  I'm sure you are frustrated but it would be highly unusual for a child to willfully be urinating on themselves during their school day.  Something is going on.  I stayed home with my kiddos prior to school--  and they went to half day kindergarten, so first grade at age 7 was the first time they were ever in school all day long.  My younger son had a few accidents at school.  He wet the bed at night a couple of times.  Neither was at all like him.  I talked to our doctor about it and she thought perhaps it was stress.  So, we tried a bit earlier bed time, a relaxing home routine, distressed, and it resolved.  Your daughter may be stressed at school.  Or she really may be so preoccupied with what is going on that she misses the signal to go or thinks she can hold it longer than she really can and doesn't want to break away  Then wets herself.  These are ALL things that happen to kids.  

Instead of pull ups, I'd try some other things.  Talk to her teacher and school counselor.  They can perhaps have a schedule of bathroom breaks and she can be encouraged to go then.  My boys are older than 7 now and both tell me that they rarely use the bathroom at school.  I don't know why.  But not all kids like to.  How they go 7 plus hours without going, I have no idea.  But they don't like to go at school, so don't.  Your daughter may go if given encouragement quietly/discreetly, and she feels safe doing so.  

Most definitely do not humiliate her.  That's painful.  And unfortunately, there is also a theory that bathroom issues like this are indicative of some kind of abuse.  

This urinating is trying to tell you something.  Try to figure that out, try to problem solve gently and I would imagine this is a phase that clears up sooner rather than later.  good luck

[Sandman2]

Excellent points by all above.  I would also add that as a retired elementary school principal - it is real important to talk to the teacher.   Also too many times I have seen kids who were just afraid to use the bathrooms.  Being able to go during class time can be very important.

[RockRose]

I'm confused about your post - there are a lot of autocorrects in there that make it difficult to understand.  

So she comes home from school smelling like pee,  but once you tell her to change her clothes she stops peeing in them?  

Have you taken her to the doctor?  A 7 year old child's pee shouldn't smell so bad that you can't launder it out.  I wonder if she's got an infection or another medical condition that's making her urine so strong.

[Dont_know_what_to_do_HELP]

Its mainly just because she pees herself so often that it's just built up on her underwear. Buy once u ask if she's had an accident she stops peeing herself. She does it ag home as well just not full on peeing herself.