Is my bf 3y/o daughter being molested by her mom bf

[Liz123456789]

OK I was cleaning the three year olds room and she was playing with a doll and kept touching inappropriate areas of the doll and being molested as a child, I ask her if anyone touched her there she said yes her mom bf, she has lately been acting strange like trying to lick her dad when he kisses her, playing with his nipples when he sets on couch w/o shirt on. He does correct her but her behavior seems weird and she lately she has been trying to see her dad naked.. it's like they wasn't married but he signed birth certificate and they have his last name. But she has a protective order because he didn't take well to losing his family... I'm scared that if it's not true it could affect hin seeing kids and what would happen

[MomMomMomMomMomMom]

You just have to do what you think is right. There's a murder trial going on in my home town where a man accidentally killed his girlfriends toddler daughter while raping her. You can't be too cautious.

[Helporneedhelp]

I think he should not let on he knows and say she's been acting strange anything he could say not to arouse suspicion from the mother and take her to a child psychologist and have her talk to the psychologist in private at that age children don't know how to lie unless their time so don't let the mother know because she will teach her to lie

[Helporneedhelp]

Sorry for the asterics don't know how that happened.  But I meant at the end children that age don't lie aside from saying they didn't eat the cookie because she knows that's wrong    But if something is happening the mother has her convinced this behavior is ok.   So she won't think to lie about it to the psychologist   But like if the mother becomes suspicious she will teach her to lie about it.  Or convince her its there little secret and reward her for keeping that secret. As u know she knows no better    I'm wondering if the mother has a new boyfriend because it could be a dual molesting.  I hope that helped even a little but tread litely because I'm guessing the mother has her all week to brainwash were as daddy may only get his two days to love his child.   I hope and pray it is not happening.  But even if not to turn a blind eye would be the worst.  I don't think he should get in trouble for worrying about his daughter if it is happening best to address it but like I said tread lightly because mama always has a hold and could very easily like I said make this their little secret so if she doesn't think that you know already I would not let her think that you do    Good luck and I hope everything turns out for the best.

[familylifeedu]

Hey, I am a family life educator. You do have reason to be concerned. I would say that this young girls has been sexualized at some point, by whom and when is unclear. I do find it interesting that she has attached herself to the man in such a manner, this means there is a chance he is the abuser or someone similar to him has been the abuser in the past. The best thing to do in this situation is to stay calm, if the young girl feels tension it may make her fearful of her or the abuser "getting in trouble". Approach the topic casually and ask her clear concise questions that would make her feel safe, make sure she feels safe. If she says nothing happened, but the behavior continues confrontation may be in order. DO NOT DO THIS ALONE, please contact a professional. seek out a counselor, or social services for their assistance. Family Life education programs can be located in many places as well.

[Liz123456789]

I'm scared that if we do nothing if it is going on then it will continue or if somehow it's made up what the cocsencence will be great for my bf

[Liz123456789]

It's my boyfriend daughter