Is my daughter telling me the truth

[mc875]

I have a 3 year old daughter who is now telling me that her pee pee has been touched by a friend of mine and my husbands. I want to believe her but this guy has been really good to us and has lived with us since she was born and has always been good with my kids. Every time they see him they yell Uncle and are always playing and jumping on him including my 3 year old. He lived with us the past couple of months and none of my kids ever mentioned to me about him being like this. Now it has been about 2 months since he had moved out and just today my daughter mentioned this to me. I asked her to repeat herself and she looked me like she was scared and said "uncle touched me right here". I was a little shocked and did not know exactly what to say. I asked if this was true because accusing someone of this they can be in big trouble. I then asked what she meant by him touching her she just stood there. I remember in psychology class they use dolls for kids her age to explain themselves so I told her to get her doll and show me. She then touched the babys private with her finger and started stroking it. I know my daughter can lie but then again how would she know any of that, all my kids watch are Disney Jr or Sprout. Now that I am thinking about it though my 2 year old was always complaining about her pee pee saying oww oww, so I thought it hurt her to pee or burned when she peed thinking maybe she had an infection, but since he has been gone i have not heard her complain about it anymore. I am concerned and want to go to the doctors and get them ex amend but I am scared that the doctor with think I am a bad mother for not knowing anything. I want to tell my husband what I just heard but afraid of what he will do if I tell him so I want to know the facts before saying anything to him. And my husband told he that guy is wanting to move back in when he is finished with his job and that is soon. So i need to know something soon. I am confused, scared and do not know what to do..!!

[gigi1114]

I'm very disappointed that you are more worried about what others will think of you, and your parenting, than you are at protecting your daughter.  Call the police now, and if you ever let that man move back in the house then you should be worried about what others think of you, because you would then you would be a terrible parent.  Start believing and protecting your daughter.  Do you even realize what your poor child has been through?! You know the truth, stop pretending you don't.  Everything in your question proves that.

[RockRose]

I think she has definitely been touched by someone.  The problem with this age is girls re-direct the identity of the offender often.  I'm not exactly sure why this is, but when molested will often point to a "safer" perpetrator - i.e.,  one who can't hurt them anymore or was unlikely to hurt them in the first place.  

In a case like this where a man living there would have opportunity at a variety of times to have done this,  it is fairly believable.  

A doctor's appointment is very very unlikely to be able to turn anything up unless he's given her an STD which seems unlikely.  

At the very least,  the answer is absolutely no,  he can't come live there again.  And I'd tell him why.