MY STEPSON

[ginny1234]

AM I WRONG FOR HATING MY STEPSON FOR TOUCHING HIS 11YEAR OLD SISTER AND MY 5YEAR OLD GRANDDAUGHTER WE REPORTED THIS AND THEY R DOING MY GRANDDAUGHTR  INTERVEIW TOMARROW @9 THEY HAVE INTRVIEWED MY STEP DAUGHTERAND THEY SAID BJUST WITH HER INTERVEIW IT DOES NOT LOOK CRIMANAL BUT HE CAN NOT BE AT HOME TILL HE GETS HELP I CANT EVEN STAND TO LOOK AT HIM IT MAKES ME SICKMY HUSBAND THINKS IM WRONG BY BEING THIS WAY AM I WRONG HE IS 13 MY GRAND BABY IS 5 AND HIS SISITER IS 11

[boognell]

I HAVE STEPCHILDREN TOO AND ALTHOUGH MY ISSUES DIFFER FROM YOURS, AT TIMES I FELT LIKE I "HATED" ONE OF THEM. BUT THE REAL PROBLEM HERE IS: HE IS YOUR HUSBAND,S CHILD. FOR HIS SAKE, TRY TO FLY UNDER THE RADAR WITH THIS IMMENSELY DISTURBING ISSUE. SUPPORT EACH OTHER. LOVE EACH OTHER. PRAY. AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU TOO; I WISH YOU WELL.

[ginny1234]

thank you its hard right now so much is going on in our minds he is not able 2 b in the house at this time he is staying with my husband brother but my husbsnd just dnt no how i can hate him for this be cause the detetives are telling himit seems like cuiosty and thats hard for me ti except i hope i can change the hate later on we are seperrating today he feels that i will always hate him for this and i cant say if iwill or if i wont its only been a week and a half thank you so much

[bigmouth44]

Hi,

To hate the person, you have just cause but in time, you will heal your anger. Your husband is wrong , he should be getting help for his son. He son has problem  and it doesn;t have anything to do with hermones. It might affect your relationship with your husband, but at least you save those children of being molested more. The child should be remove from the home to seek help. He should not be around young children.

I have 2 best friends, that stepfather went after the wife child and then blame it on the child itself.  One of the step dad molested the child since she was 12yrs ,at the age of 19, the step father was stocking her. We went to court for 2yrs and the child at 19 was to scared to tell the court on what he did. The court force her to tell her story because the act was done at a young age. If she did not she would of being charge of accusing him, she was the victim.

My other girlfriend, she divoice her husband of 10yrs. Her child came first. The child was 15yrs old at the time, she was scared to tell her story but she told her best friend , which told her mother.

So, in the end , you chose the child , which children need to be protected at all times.

So having some hate in your body for this 13yrs old, is ok for now, but it will change as time passes by. Some people may disagree with me but.

Bigmouth44

[ginny1234]

he was in sports foot ball i guess its easy when u have not been in my shoes to say dnt hate him its hard not to when i look at my grandbaby and think wat he has done to her my father passed away on the 8h of this month we found out abt this on 10th we buried my dad on the 11th we got back home and reported this may b i cant see past all my hurt rite now but wen i do i will let you no how i feel then i just feel rite now he new wat he was doing was wrong to his sister and my grand baby and i cant look at him the same as i use to and mayb never willhe has hurt them rather he meant to or not do u have kids ? if u do how would u feel put your self in some one else shoes and if it were u how would you really feel???????

[imonlysaying]

Do not hate him. He is obviously looking for attention. He is also at an age where he is learning about himself. He just needs to find a new way of getting attention that won't hurt someone else. I doubt he was trying to hurt them. It could be as simple as getting him on a basket ball team or in a karate class. It will give him companionship and acceptance. Hateing or being mad will only make him need attention even more. Finding the correct outlet for him sound necessary.

[RockRose]

I don't know about "wrong" or "right",  this is an issue about your relationship with your husband.  

This may break the two of you up,  if CPS decides there is no criminal behavior here,  and you feel (and it's your right) that you can't be around this boy anymore.  

Prayers for healing.  I know this must have turned your world upside down - but the less hysteria there is in the home,  the better the 5 year old will do.  Children are resilient,  and sometimes the adult reactions to an incident trouble the child more than an incident of molestation by another child.  

Hope her interview goes well tomorrow.   The less trauma you express to her,  the better.