My 1 year old will not listen!

[adamsmommy]

Please help.  My 1 year old son will NOT listen to me!  I have tried everything to disipline him and nothing works.  Do I try spanking?  He gets into everything, from opening the dishwasher, to dumping over the trash can and climbing on everything!  He knows he is not suposse to me doing this things.  I know this because he looks at me and laughs when I tell him no.  I am at my wits end.  My husband and I are both sick, I just miscarried - we both need our rest and my child is a wild man.  I need to know how to set boundaries and how to get him to listen to me and obey me when I say no.  I just want a well-behaved child.  One who dosn't throw fits.  Please help!

[YoMomma1414]

Kids Know damn well what they are doing at the age of one! My mom makes it a point to my one year old brother when she says No it means NO and he just walks away and does something else without hitting him. You have to be firm and talk to them with a firm voice and stay firm! YEZ YOU CAN DISCIPLINE A ONE YEAR OLD!!!!! AND THEY WILL LISTEN!

[RockRose]

YoMama,  you're too young to get this.

No,  one year olds don't know when they're doing wrong.  They can barely walk,  and can barely talk.

The way you feel about your baby brother isn't reality.  When you're a grown adult mother,   you'll understand that 12 month olds don't obey.  They don't have the mental capacity to.

However,  they do have the mental capacity to shrink in fear if they are threatened.

[specialmom]

So agree with Rockrose!  Developmentally, one year olds do not know D*** well-----  they do develop quickly but if encounter such harshness early on, they will act that way soon enough themselves.  Check out development and cognative ability sometime of a 12 month old.   They are not ready to rob banks and perform brain surgery by then . . . nor can they think ahead, control impulses or reason.  

[margypops]

Kalio1 had a valid point in my opinion this is a baby it is not a gooid idea to be thinking of hitting any child never mind one of this age ,ask for counselling if you think you will go there .....

[margypops]

Oh my goodness I just spotted this thread.and the date, its .3 years old this child is about 4 now LOL My apologies for my post .Nas i hope he bnever gor spanked ...........

[kdominguez]

Hello! My daughter is going to be 1 yr old on the 2nd of January and she is going through this same thing! It does not help that my husband is deployed and will be gone for another 6 months, it has already been 2! :( But anyway, children understand more than everyone on here is letting on. My daughter understands the word "no", as I have been using since she was only about 4 months old and learning how to move on her own. She also understands that she is not supposed to do things but she just doesn't care a lot of the time! I sternly tell her no, if that does not work I say it again, after I say no in a very very stern voice 3 times she gets a little smack on the fat of her leg. After that she leaves it alone. (kids are just very curious and evil at times! lol) A lot of times I do not even spank her at all and I just take whatever it is away from her and tell her no...she cries for a second and then walks away! She has started this new hissy-fit loveliness! I just ignore her and walk away! As for the garbage can thing, my daughter loves to dump the dogs water all over the kitchen. I have a gate at each door to our kitchen and I leave one a little higher up so our dog can fit under it during the day. But sometimes she can slide under it and still gets to the water! So irritating! She did it 2 times today! I guess all I am saying is that it is probably just a stage in their lives and we as parents have to teach them discipline now or else they will think they can do whatever they want all the time. Smacking a baby on their leg, not too hard tho, is not any kind of abuse and it is not going to scar the child for life. It is just a shock to them so they will then think about that smack when they go to do it again, hopefully!!! The way a child acts at a young age is more than likely how they will act at an older age. I was reading online articles about 1 year olds and they may not be able to talk, read, run, etc, but they understand what you are saying and your different tones/attitudes. People should give young children more credit! I have always talked to my daughter like she is a person and not a baby, she listens to that. If we are in public and she is starting to whine I look at her and say "we dont do that!" and she stops, they are people - just smaller!! :) Good luck with your son! I hope my post helped you!