My 3 year old is out of controle

[Brittney_n_kane]

My son is about to be 3 next month, and I have been raising him all alone since he was about 2 months old.  We jus recently moved about 6 hours away from home and I now have 2 jobs and am going to start school in Jan.  While I work my son stays with my grandma and both her and I are at our wits end with him!  I have allowed him to walk all over me and I have spoiled him trying to make up for his dad leaving us and now it has bitten me in the butt!  He is throwing these horrific tantrums where screaming fits last about an hour and sometimes longer he is hitting me and my grandma, we went to the dentist yesterday and she said no more binkis and that has been the beggining of a new battle! Time outs, spankings taking things away....none of it works!  Is this normal?  Can someone please help me gain controle before I loose my mind!

[Mamitajulie]

Well in another direction of thought.  Time out teaches him that if he misbehave, you dont want him to be part of your family since you put him away of you.  He is trying to let you know that he miss playing and cuddling with you.  I have tryied time out and it doesnt work.  if you do it for a while it will just make him bottle up his emotion.  He is feeling something and cant express what.  He probably just cant figure it out himself.  

Hitting bitting and all these fits are energy that my son has too.  I have been crying for a week over his behavior problem.  I have tried time out and stuff and now i am redirecting my energy.  if you feel that time out is what he needs then go that road but if you dont like it when you do it read about gentle discipline and attachement parenting.  

Loving your kid and giving him all that you can give just shows how much you care.  He just wants attention and try to pass it accross.  He need to know his boundries but I cant tell you how to show him.  Guide him instead of punishing his emotion

take care and keep up.  I will try too

[91004]

It is going to take time with the timeouts,like you said you have given what he wants for 3 yrs you cant expect him to change in just a matter of weeks,  if you have to put him in his room till he calms down. Not to mention your also working 2 jobs and you probally arent seeing him alot. Be strict and stick with the timeouts. He misbehaves or throws a tantrum put him in his room for a timeout for 3 min when he is calm sit him down and tell him why he was in the timeout and have him apoligize.