Hi im so glad i have read your post. I have just today posted a question myself about my 9 year old son . My son has been in our bed on and off for the past 3 years. The past year most nights. He is a happy confident boy who loves school anf has lots of friends, he is always going to peoples houses and has no problem going out without us. When he was 6 he was very upset when we left him with a sitter, this was the start of the problems. If he sleeps alone he cannot get to sleep he feels sick and sometimes is. If he is in my bed he is fine. The problem we have is that he would love to go for sleepovers , he has tried but every time we have to pick him up. He now wants to go on a 2 night school trip. Help.,,,, what should we do i know how he will be but should i encourage him or not. We have not seen a councellor as i feel this will make him more anxious about the problem.
I see why you are not with him anymore. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes there are topics that make no sense to discuss. It sounds to me that whenever your daughter's father tries to "discuss/argue" about the living arrangements of his daughter (and he probably feels he is getting the short end of the stick), you just need to say "well, the court has already made that decision" and then keep repeating it until the topic is dropped. Nothing good will come from ruminating this topic. If need be, just walk away or hang up the telephone.
Thanks,
I know what you are saying. I agree , I'm her mom and it breaks my heart to see her go through this every night. The problem is that by court order her real dad is to be be able to have a say in all her medical treatment. I have to notify him of every appt. and consult with him on any meds or recommendations. The good news is that we just went back to court and the counselor testified that she felt my daughter needs medicine short term to learn how to calm herself at night and recommends she she a psychiatrist. The judge ruled that we have to follow the recommendations of her counselor. My ex isn't happy about it and is still begging me NOT to put her on medication.He says she will get addicted to it and be on meds the rest of her life! I know that isn't true, I am a nurse. But now he really can't say anything because if he goes against it he will be violating a court order. It's just hard because he makes me feel SO BAD about it and says that if she lived with him she would be fine. He says that is what this is all about is that she doesn't see him enough. He loves to push my buttons. She is a very happy child otherwise and we are very close. Soo anyways I am setting her up with a psychiatrist to see what they say. Getting into an appt. will take several weeks. In the meantime I am still frustrated and don't know what to do to help her. Last night was a little better. She only woke me up 3 times. Thanks for your comment.:)
("Her real dad is totally against medication.")
I would say, you are her Mom and if you feel medication would benefit her, I would give it to her. What can he do about it? I would hate to feel this way every night. It would not mean she would be on the meds forever, just long enough to get through this.