I am at the end of my rope with my daughter. She is six years old and in the first grade. She is described (by teachers, doctors, etc) as a "bright, sweet girl" but . . .
She is prone to these temper tantrum/rages. If she doesn't get what she wants, if she hears a no, if she has to wait on something, if she gets frustrated, if she is not the center of attention the water works start. The tears and crying are mild in comparison to the angry, escalating reactions. For example, when the teacher did not call on her, she got upset, kicked her desk, pushed it away, yelled out, screamed and cried and eventually hurt herself by flailing before the teacher could get to her and get her out of the classroom.
Another time, she was in "cool down" in the hallway because she was already upset and crying and she got angry and threw her eyeglasses and stomped her feet.
At home, she will throw toys, clothes, stomp feet, beat the walls and scream that "I hate you," to her father and I.
Since school has started, she has been taken out of class and put in "cool out" in the principal's office three times. School has been in session for three weeks, and the three visits to "cool out" were within a span of five days.
She is told the rules before hand, and when she breaks them, it is explained what she did wrong and she acknowledges it. ("I yelled at Daddy. That wasn't nice.") However, when she is punished (sent to bed, privileges revoked) she will instantly not accept the blame. Instead it becomes my fault, my husband's fault, the teacher's fault, anyone's fault but hers. And we are doing it not because she did something wrong, but because "you're mean and you don't love me."
These attacks are not infrequent. They happen regularly at least every other day. My husband and I don't know what to do. We recently moved and she started a new school, but she had these problems before the move and school change, however, so I don't believe that is all of her problem.
Are there any suggestions to help us? We have an appointment scheduled for a psychologist but that's two weeks out. Could there be something medical that I could ask her family physician to look at? Am I missing anything or are there other details and information I should be gathering to give to her psychologist when we go?