Welcome to the child behavior community!

[supermomma531]

Welcome to our child behavior community! I am your child behavior community leader. Anyone who has children or who has had some sort of experience with children, all know that children have different behaviors. There are no two children alike. There are many different topics that have been or can be covered in discussions, do not be afraid to ask any type of question. I am sure that someone on here can help to find a answer. As parents or caregivers, we all need to be supportive of each other. I personally have 3 children, ages 10 years old,7 years old, and 15 months old. I come onto this site quite often looking for information to help me with my children. I am on this site almost everyday. If you have any questions or concerns about your own situations, there are many different forums that have tons of advice as well as doctors who are regularly on here to answer any type of question or concern you may have. I hope to meet many of you parents, grandparents, or caregivers over time and I hope that we all can help each other out. I know from my own experiences, parenting is the toughest "job" that I have ever done. If anyone out here has any kind of information on any type of child behavior, I personally would really appreciate it! If you have any questions that you would like to ask me personally, you are welcomed to send me questions or concerns to my site. I am always traveling through the different forums. I am always willing to learn new techniques, or information that I have never heard of or seen before. New ideas are always welcome!!

[Samreen143]

Thanks for the welcome. I have been browsing through many forums since long for my daughter care taking and my knowledge and found this one good enough to join as a member. I hope I get ample help here :-) Right now I am just trying to locate how and where to begin from !!

[grace1987121]

i have a son whos going to be 3, he wont play with toys on his own r even with other kids.it is starting to worry me as he is going to nursery next year. also he has temper tautrams all the time i have tried everything to get him out of this, he will throw things, scream at me, hit people, and thinks its funny. also have tried potty training him he was doing really well going by himself and now if u ask him 2 sit on his potty he starts a temper tautram so i end up leaving it. however i need help as i need him potty trained before next year HELP HELP!  

[supermomma531]

Your son will eventually potty train but with some children, they will seem to do well for a while but then all of a sudden be afraid to do something. A lot of children seem to become afraid of using the potty. I have no clue why they would be afraid of something like this. Also sometimes children will put a stop to potty training as this is really the only thing that they can control and I believe that they do this for attention. Some kids aren't interested in toys. I would let him play with boxes or whatever it is he is playing with so long as he isn't in danger. Children need to be able to use their imagination and that to me seems to come from playing with boxes and playing games like house or store or doctor or what ever it is they are playing. Maybe he is a outdoors persons into playing soccer, baseball, football or anything else that is sporty. This is a great way to expend his energy. He'll play with toys when he is ready to. All you can do is keep offering outside time at a park or kicking a ball around a field or reading books with him. Remember his brain is just like a sponge and this is the most precious time for him to learn the most. Maybe try to introduce him to stuff that you like doing or liked as a kid. Maybe he'll do some baking or cooking with you and he could help mix stuff in a bowl or wash vegetables and fruits. Go to the library with him and check out the books and play groups there. Try rewarding him for good behavior and using the potty with a reward chart and stickers or ink stamps. This will give him the feeling of accomplishing things for himself. I wish you the best of luck. Also remember, work on one thing at a time like potty training and make things fun for him. Kids tend to respond really well to fun.  

[Justneedhelp85]

My little girl is 5. She started school this year, she has settled in really well, made heaps of friend. In June of this year she got on a bus and went to a friends place instead of going to afterschool care where she should have been. I was lucky i knew the family. I punished her for that as i needed her to know that what she did was wrong and very dangerous. I thought that she had learnt from that incident. But she didn't. I had made plans with a friends mum that she would go over on the Wed and that was fine. I got a phone call this afternoon on my way home from work saying that she was still at the school missed her bus and had thought she was ment to go to her friends place today. We got home we spoke about the day and then i asked what happened and she said" Well we made the decision that i would go today not tomorrow". Now i am scared how do i deal with it. I thought that i got through to her the first time. I'm scared that she is going to make the wrong decision one day and i never see her again. PLEASE I NEED HELP!!!!

[supermomma531]

To be honest with you, I am quite surprised that the bus companies and the schools would allow the kids to get off where ever they feel like it. It used to be like that here in Canada but that was changed years ago. How scary for you, I'm so sorry that you've had to endure this!

I think that the only way to get through to her is constantly reminding her about how dangerous it is to not come straight home. How dangerous it is to get onto another bus and go home with someone else without your permission. Be honest with her and tell her how scared you really are about her choices. I would keep on the path of punishing her for even attempting to do it.This may be the only way you can get through to her. Make her sit on time out thinking about her actions and making her talk to you about the whole stranger idea and making her really think about the whole situation. You have to be honest, forthcoming and very blunt about the whole situation. Children of her age tend not to think about consequences under situations. They really do not have the ability to think critically about a situation. This is why we have to take the initiative right from the start to teach them right from wrong. I don't know how strict you are or how your method of raising her but I'm sure that you're doing well and she is listening. If you can be blunt and honest with her about anything, show her all the pictures from child find and tell her about some of these children who are missing because they may have decided to go home with a friend from school or a person they thought they knew and have never come home. If she were my daughter, I would tell her about Victoria Stafford and how she never went home like she was suppose to, and how she went with someone else instead and now is not alive anymore. Or about any other child that may never have come home because of their choice to talk to a stranger. This is what I would do with my children. I have done this with my children.  I am constantly speaking to them about not talking to strangers and what could happen if they did. Let her know that the only time she is aloud to go to a friends house is only with your permission and you have to know these people first. I hope this helps you a lot. I know how you feel about your child going home with a friend and not telling you about it. My daughter has done it as well. Luckily for me I knew the family. But my daughter did get into huge trouble for her wrong choice!

[Justneedhelp85]

Thank you so so much for your advise. I spoke to her and showed her pictures for some children that have been taken. So hopefully it will sink in. Its just a really scary world out there and i just don't want to be one of the poor families out there that loses a child. I just want the best for my lil girl and for her to be safe