is his dad around or your father? any male relatives who are reasonable and good people? maybe they could help you with controlling him.
i don't have any real good suggestions for your though. i am sorry you are having to deal with this. i would take him to a doctor to see if there is anything he can find that could be treated.
Hi Single Momof6, it sounds rough, hang in there. i have a four year old girl who hits and kicks me and screams when she doesn't get her way so i know it can be upsetting and scary and i also know i don't have all the answers. i have been trying to give her more one on one time and to praise her for when she is helpful or sweet or patient. maybe he fells like his little sister is getting more attention. Attacking his sister with a screwdriver is serious - make sure he knows this is absolutely not okay to hurt people including the kicking and hitting YOU - when my daughter does this I tell her "we don't hurt people". And by the same token, I'd avoid using physical punishment on him. It I agree that it's a good idea to talk to a doctor also to see if there could be an issue that needs treatment. Let your son know you love him and that he's special to you. Again, hang in there, and you are doing something good for him by reaching out to others for advice and talking and thinking about what you can do to make it better for you and him.
thank you for your comments. to answer your question no his dad has not been around for two years now. even when he was here my son still acted this way . just not as bad. it just has got worse over the year. as for my dad he has passed away. so it just me and my kids. i also have 3 other kids to. so i have a total of six kids. i have 10 year old boy, 8 year old boy , 4 year old girl,3year old boy, 2 year old girl,and 9 months old boy. he is not mean towards the others unless they are mean to him. i can also tell you this when he was 2, his lil sister was only 9 months. i told him no he could not have a soda and he went up to his lil sister and kicked her in the stomach. i have seen him go up to her and hit, pinch, or even pull her hair for no reason at all. and then walk away laughing at her. see with taken him to doctors . i want to but when he goes places he does not act like that. he is the best child ever.( unless he is in bad mood then ever body see it.) but only when in the company of strangers. as soon as we are in pravite he goes back to himself. the dr. would not believe me if i was to tell him how he is.but i will try he has one tomorrow with the endo to see if he has diabetes. and i will go tomorrow to make an appt. but if there is any thing i can do. any thing let me know. thank you again singlemomof6