anger in a 4 year old typical?

[kellyjbrock]

our 4 year old grandson lives with us 5 days and nights a week.  He has a terrible anger problem when I yell at him. By the time I yell at him I am at my wits end.  I honestly dont remember my children yelling back at me or yelling at me when I corrected them.  We certinly didnt ask to be in this position of raising a child at our age, and my physical resources are depleted.  Can someone offer me some advice to curb this behavior in our grandson?


This discussion is related to Almost 4 year old girl, doesn't listen, has horrible attitude.

[benjimom]

Check out your local library too.

[kellyjbrock]

thanks for taking the time to respond to my concerns.  I am going to start doing the time aways.  It's been a long time since I have dealt with a toddler. I just have to remember that im the adult and he is the child.  he doesnt have to like it, but he does have to do it.
Im also going to look on amazon for that book.
Thanks again

[benjimom]

I know it is hard to raise a four year old at any age, esp when you are a grandparent nad he's lucky to have you to do that.   My son whne he is angry and he sees me angry gets even angrier and spanking him makes him extremely angry, so it's not an effective form of punishment.  

You could try what I read about in a book called "time aways", not time outs, but make him go to his room and stay until he cools down.  Do not let him come out and if he comes out shut the door again and let him cool down.  

I read about it in the book "The Way of Boys".  My son became more mouthy at four too.

I knw it's tough.