My friend's one year old son cries when he is around her. She said that from the moment she puts him in the car till he goes to bed he cries. She said that he wakes up crying every night and she can't comfort him. He is fine at daycare, and her mom's house. I think that maybe he feels the tention in the relationship between her and his dad. Dad won't help at all with anything. I mentioned this to her today reluctantly because I know she feels bad. She says that she is getting to the point that she can't stand to be around him. I also feel that she doesn't spend enough time with him, she is young and likes to go out drinking so they take D to the in-laws, (sometimes I think I think that because I'm jealous, my husband and I barely go anywhere without our 2 year old, not by choice. Dinner alone at a restaurant would be nice. but that's our problem, back to C). It's not just that but without her husbands help she has the entire weight of the household on her shoulders, he does nothing, and yes she works fulltime as well. Keeping her home takes time away from D as well, I told her not to worry about the house and whether or not J gets a hot meal to put some of that time towards bonding with D. but I don't want my advice to cause more friction for her. please any advice I can get to help C, I love my friend and she is in such turmoil.