I have a four year old girl. She is really smart, listens and follows directions most of the time. I don't think she is too out of the ordinary as far as her behavior. She just gets really hystarical almost once a day. It is usually over the littlest thing. Like if her socks don't go on right the first time, or if she things just don't go her way. She will sit and cry and scream for such a long time. Then I sit there and try to scream over her to tell her to calm down and stop crying. She just says, " I want to listen, I want to stop crying, but I can't!" What do I do when she does this??? I have tried walking away, she just follows and kicks at the door. I try ignoring her until she is calm, but she rarely calms down. She gets so worked up she is shaking, and hurts her throat. I feel so bad when this happens, so helpless, and frustrated too. You cannot punish her for being frustrated, but how can I help her to calm down, or get her to listen and understand she has control of herself, not me??