loud talking

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As posted in another discussion, my child ( a healthy, active 7 yr old) is a loud talker. We have a very low key household, and the loud talking is very bothersome to me and her 14 year old sister. ( At the dinner table we find ourselves saying " shhhh" and " we're right next to you, speak quieter, please" very frequently) She has much opportunity to voice her opinions, needs, wants, and I don't feel she is competing for the stage, so to speak. Her teachers ( from k, 1st and 2nd) have been addressing this and trying to tone it down , as it is disruptive in class. Her hearing tests have been normal ( I had it checked because of this reason) . Any suggestions to help? I don't want it to effect her self- esteem and I want her to know that her words are important to me, I just wish they were quieter. Thanks!

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TileMaker · Answer

my daughter is extremely loud and it turns out she has sensory processing issues.  (but not full blown Sensory Processing Disorder or SPD). i would check into that.

kindred_NY · Answer

Thank-you both for your posts. I'll continue to try to keep in mind that it is just her, and "deal" with it more. The last thing I want is to put distance between us because of this. I love that little girl much to much to have her volume come between us.   :-)

RockRose · Answer

I have a dear friend who talks really loudly.  REALLY loudly.  

I don't think there's a person who knows her who wouldn't acknowledge that she shouts,  and also wouldn't state that she's really dear and they like her.  Everyone likes her,  literally everyone.  

I could stand 15 yards away from her and hear every single word she says.  

Go figure.  ;D

LRM1021 · Answer

Since you have had her hearing checked, and based on what you have written, she has no other problems-- it sounds like you have a daughter who is loud and boisterous-- some might say she is full of life and very appealing and energetic, while others might say she was overbearing and "out there." 

Sounds like her temperment is not low key like the rest of her family. This does not mean there is anything wrong, of course - just that she has a different tempo-- does nt care for subtleties, and wants it all right there where she can see it-- and likes things, including her own voice, loud.


If its really that bad, you can have her "practice" talking more quietly- as a skill to learn. Set up times during the day where she is to talk about anything that comes to mind, and you can monitor her tone and she can practice being more quiet. Since it does not come to her naturally, she'll have to work on it:) But this can be learned through practice.

Just to let you know, my mother and sister were very low key and quiet, and my Dad was pretty low key himself (just very humorous)--- but not me -- I was loud, boisterous.. and still am.  I know that there are many people that I probably make uncomfortable, because I am so "Out there" for all to see ( and hear:))  I know that I made my mother uncomfortable, because she told me so-- my personality was just not what she found to be appealing -- because I was so loud and boisterous. But as an adult, I just keep company with other loud, boisterous people, and married another loud, boisterous person, and had a loud, boisterous child! :) I am very successful in my career, as is my husband, and we have an excellent life. I am a very happy, satisfied person

 But I can't be around my mother for very long periods of time, because our personalities clash so much. We get along, but best at a distance and for short periods.