potty training?

[misscharm]

I babysit a 3 year old girl and her brother,who is six.The girl does fine until she comes back from her dads or her grandmas.Then it's like I'm starting all over with her again,this should be more of her mom's job rather than mine.Then,the six year old boy has pooped his pants twice now.Once he did it on recess at school and then at my house.He wasn't sick and his mom hasn't told me of any medical problems either.I've explained to him that he needs to use the bathroom not go in his pants.It drives me nuts to feel like I'm doing more than part on the matter and their mom just blows it off.Please help  before I lose my cool with her!

[misscharm]

First of all,thank you for responding to my post.Second,when I said that I was gonna lose my cool I meant towards the mom!I would never do that to a child and I have three of my own!I'm a little offended by you saying they might be better off in someones else's care.It's due to someone else's care that they have some of the problems that they have.I know that potty training is a learning experience so I'm not exactly worried when it comes to the three year old.However,it's a little different when it comes down to the six year old messing his pants.Like I said,he wasn't sick and his mother hasn't informed me of any medical problems.I feel that if there was/is a problem,then both myself and the parent need to work together on tackling it.Can you understand how I feel when I tell the mom what happened and she acts like it's not a big deal?To me,it's saying that it's okay to do that and it's not okay!!!Not if there is no reason for it.

[RockRose]

Please don't "lose your cool" with her.

I don't really have any other advise,  but if you're about to lose your cool with a 3 year old, they might be better of in someone else's care.