My 8 year will not use the toilet to poop.

[Txspch2]

Since we started potty training my son will not use the toilet. We have seen three different doctors and everyone does the same thing. They will put him on Mira lax for six months to help make his stool softer and to make him go to the bathroom more frequently so that way he cannot hold it in. It never seems to make a difference he still poops in his pants and not in the toilet. It seems to be an issue with the toilet itself. We have tried praise & attention, time outs, and bribing. I have gotten to the to the point where I figure he will do it when he is ready himself. He has a horrible odor often coming in from school and I wonder how come nobody calls him out for it or calls me to get him changed. It is now escalating into him peeing the bed. He has never done this prior to a few months back. I am afraid that he maybe reverting back for attention because of his younger siblings. As he has gotten older his stool has become of normal consistency as when he was younger he would be constipated often. We make sure that he gets plenty of fiber and water and other essential nutrients. The thing is now that his grandmother will not stop trying to bribe him to go the toilet to poop. I feel it's inappropriate at this point it is not fair to his brother who goes to the toilet and always has since potty training. So now to try to get his reward he will just stop pooping all around. We occasionally have to get diarrhea medicines and give him a big dose over the weekend to get his bowels moving again. Everytime we do this the amound of medicines we normally use go to larger doses simply because the amount we used before has no effect. All three doctors have ordered x rays to check and make sure the poop has not calcified inside, and to make sure he has no problems within his intestines. We have come to the conclusion that it is a pyschological issue. He shows very little interest in trying to change. I can stay on him for months making him go to the bathroom every hour and the day that we get to busy too do that it will go back to exactly what it was before, him not using the bathroom in the toilet. I have no clue what else to do with him?

[Txspch2]

I haven't talked to his teacher this current school year but I have spoken with all his past teachers. We have tried putting magazines, and things of such in the restroom to get him more motivated to go in there. The problem came down to that we have no problems with him going to the restroom now but he just sits there to read the magazines we have in there. As far as medicine goes we must give him the medicines ever so often because it is detrimental to his health when he stops up inside he simply just stops pooping all around and he will get sick and I took him to the doctor at first about it but the doctor just had us put him on diarrheaa meds to clean him out or would prescribe something. It is not issue that we are using the medicine as trying to rectify the problem. We are using medicine trying to get his bowels moving again when they have quit. I took him to the emergency room yesterday because he was throwing up and running fever and it has been a solid month since I can remeber a normal size bowel movement. I was afraid that maybe he was stopped up again and was sick from it.

[Sandman2]

I do know a lot of kids don't like using the toilets at school.  This is especially true if the teacher won't easily let them leave the room and they can only go at break time when there are a lot of other kids around.  If his (kinda) normal bowel habits are to go during the day and he doesn't like using the school ones, then ya he is gonna come home with it in his pants.  Trouble with giving him medicines during the weekend is that it maynot help him get on a normal schedule.
  I would talk to his teacher and make sure she knows that if you son says he has to go to the restroom, that she lets him.
  I would really work  on getting him on a regular schedule.  If you are doing the medicine over the weekend, make sure it is always at the same time and at a time that would get his bowels moving during the morning or at night.    In many ways the medicine might be hurting the normal process because when he does have to go, he may not be able to hold it till he gets home.
   I am not sure if you can make your bathroom any more friendly for him.  He needs privacy.  Put a couple of comics in there.  Tell him to take his time, etc.  You might want to try just a stool softener and keep the normal diet going, with plenty of liquids - and then just let nature take its course.  Good luck