who to believe?

[ashavanilla]

hi,im from trinidad,i have a problem bothering me a few days i need to clear my thoughts,i have a 5 year old son and a four year old niece who i adore a lot.but lst weekend i was by my sister,my son was there.he and my nice were playing alone in a room and my sister walked in on my son on top of her and he jersey lifted up.i know what your thought is at this moment,[its my sons fault].i tried not to get angry,my son is a very quiet,well behaved person who does great in school for an early age.my niece is spoiled rotten by her parents and our other sister who is my nieces mother twin.they let her do anything and gets away with it.financially they have more than us but i know how both kids are.my sister always taught her daughter dont let no one touch her private.but in this case she started by saying my son were looking for screws in her belly button to build a house.and her mother asked if my son touched her 'suzie'she said yes.she did all the talking and my son sat quietly and cried.this happened one time before but where i live,i left both oft them in the room playing,when i walked in she had her top down she had on a romper so the top was off but the bottom part was on,i asked wats goin on here,no answer.so i pulled it back up and told her dont do it again.my son was quiet with all his clothes on not even taking her on,10 mins later i went to check on them and the whole thing is off this time.i got vex i told her mother,she spoke to them and we forgot about that now this happens and they all blame my son one even asked what kind of son i have and asked why we dident beat him.i love my son and i know deep down he did not start it.it was her idea to go in the room and play and she even tried locking the door but i told her no so she dident.my son lives with his grandparents for now and just not to make it look like they cared they came up with the idea that he might be molested or he's seeing it somwhere.i can definitely put my head on a block and swear on my life that where he is he is not exposed to those things.and we dont do it in front him period we dont even kiss in front him.i love my sisters and my niece so i just stayed quiet not to make enemies but it hurt that without a thought they blamed my son and said she will never lie and knows nothing about that.but a few wks ago they asked my husband if he can put a parental lock on their laptop cuz she goes on porn.really dont know how she found it but she did.she finds videos on you tube with half naked girls dancing slutty and picks up their moves and shows us.i am no saying my son is all right because he was there.whoevee promoted it,it was allowed.i dont know what to believe or how to face my sisters because they think he is a 5 yr old sex freak.i know him and i know her but they will never consider the fact that.MAYBE it was her,they see only what they want to see.i need some advice or answers if possible.ty.

[ashavanilla]

i have never had this problem only from her.he has other cousins and family ,they would have told me if my son did anything like that.

[RockRose]

It sounds like you might want to distance yourself from family for awhile.  

This is what kids do, if they are unsupervised.  They "play doctor".  A 5 year old is really not older than a 4 year old,  and they are doing this by mutual consent when they are left alone together.

There's no blame that needs to be placed here,  on the boy or the girl,  but on the adults who don't watch the kids even though they continue to demonstrate this is what they'll do if they're not supervised.