I'm trying to be as supportive as I can with this, she's had the surgery, I told her before that she's doing this only for herself, not because I had any complaints about her breasts. I like the new ones ok, but liked the old ones better. I was suprised at the feelings I have of betrayal, neglect, almost grieving the loss of my favorite part of her body, feelings of depression. The comments I read from women completely discount the feelings of the men. I'm now having problems "finishing" the act of sex. After she is satisfied I just loose interest, I want to finish in my mind but the feeling just isn't there. I look over at her in normal situations and the fact that she is so much smaller bothers me. It's been 5 weeks now, we'll keep trying, hoping these feelings go away. When I ask if there is a support group for husbands of wives with breast reduction, I get told oh it's all about you then? No It's not all about me, but I do have feelings, and they are hurt, and there isn't anybody willing to talk to about them.