Please help -conception and paternity stress!!

[Katelea]

Hi. I had regretful relations with a guy and had unprotected sex on July 20th 2015, took the morning after pill on July 22nd.  I noticed some light menstrual bleeding lasting up until 28th July. I  had unprotected sex during early morning of July 29th with the same person, however he denied ejaculating this time at all. During the night on July 29th I had a welcomed reconnect with my ex bf and told him what I had just done with the other guy. My ex bf and I had sex and continued to do so frequently during the proceeding days until August 5th.  We slept together after this timeframe also and I have not been with anyone else since.

I discovered I was pregnant early September with dating scans stating May 11th 2016 as due date. I was unable to provide accurate LMP due to the morning after pill confusion (I usually have regular periods).

I'm stressed about the father. Although my ex bf has remained by my side, we agreed DNA test would be a good idea following birth.

Pregnancy has been fine and baby growing according to time. I'm just having constant stress regarding the father as my due date approaches.

[Tavy11]

I think it's your Ex

[Katelea]

Thank you kindly for reply. You are right on saying my concern stems from anxiety re the other guy. The dates worry me because morning after pill can throw cycle out of whack , yet the ultrasound dating screen taken at 4, ,6 and 8 week correlate with the May 11 due date so I know I should focus on this. My thoughts also worry at the chance baby is born early, aand will cause me to revisit these anxious moments . can I feel confident with ultrasound date scans? Initially I was fine, now late at night I have these stressful moments of doubt. Sorry to sound ignorant or uneducatd, I'm ftm and have become comfortable with having my ex bf back in my life as our child's daddy. Your advice is greatly appreciated x

[AnnieBrooke]

Here is what the conception calculator I use says based on a due date of May 11:

Probable date of ovulation:  August 19
Possible dates of conception:  August 15 to 23

I assume you have also counted back and found that these numbers hold true.  So this implies that your problem is that you keep obsessing because you had sex with the other guy, not that you are really worried about the dates?

Worry about who is the father when the dates don't justify the worry is really just general internalized anxiety over your behavior, not a clue that your worries are true.  

Please try to relax and trust your tests and your dates.