Help! 3 possible fathers.. yes I know what your thinking

[Jpike31]

Hi you all.. yes I know.. the title says it all! I am extremely ashamed about this situation I have put myself in but I SERIOUSLY need some guidance and advise from outsiders who have no connection to this situation... any honest input would be so greatly appreciated. The only "semi positive" thing about this situation is that 2 of the guys I have known for years. All 3 are wonderful people that come from great families as well.

Okay, I found out I am pregnant. The first day of my last period was on August 12, 2015.  Here is out how it pans out :/

August 21st- Guy #1 (came inside me)
August 23rd- Guy #2 (came inside me)
August 28th- Guy #1 (PULLED OUT- DID NOT *** INSIDE ME)
August 28th- Guy #3 (came inside me)
August 29th- OVULATION!?!?!

I had EXTREME one sided pain (my doctor states that she is 99.999 percent sure this was ovulation, my periods were longer than 28 days) on August 29th...

From your opinions, any idea who the father COULD possibly be? I know this is a messy horrible situation, all completely self inflicted. All I am asking for is your input on who you think it could be. I have no one else to talk to about this and would sincerely appreciate any input on your thoughts.

Just an FYI I plan on getting a prenatal paternity test done through DDC at 9 weeks, but in the meantime I am just trying to figure this whole mess out.

Thank you for your time

[AnnieBrooke]

Women post often on this community and say "What if the (fill in the blank -- doctor, ultrasound, lab) is WRONG!?!!?!"  That is just generalized anxiety talking.  You are doing your best to come up with a rational answer.  

If it is wrong, and your life will still go on with your wonderful baby, and you will make decisions, and you will have a good life that you create, the way you have before.  Test twice if you don't trust the DDC test when the results come, test one time with the DDC and another time with Ravgen, test when the baby comes, it is not like you only have this one shot to be sure.  (This, by the way, is why I counseled you not to test with the two least likely candidates but to test with the two most likely ones.  If you are at such a level of anxiety that you are using the word 'terrified,' a couple of negatives is not going to do anything for you.  You'll start in with "what if the negative tests are WRONG?!?!?!" and will feel like you tested wrong.).

I think that right now you're just feeling fraught because of the uncertainty and the fact that the situation was caused by your choices (plus none of the men disagreeing) but terror really has no place in this mix, from where I sit you are in a pretty good place.  Sure, maybe not married and no little house with a cat and white picket fence, but otherwise OK as these things go, and your choices are not terrifying.

[Jpike31]

Thank you Annie. My ultrasound is next Friday so I will definitely keep you posted. As for the prenatatal testing- do you feel it is as accurate as the claim?

My biggest fear is that one guy is excluded then it ends up being his. This terrifies me.

[AnnieBrooke]

Write back when you get the ultrasound.  Not to be repetitive, but ask them not to take your period into account when they give you the estimated due date.  And don't let the "weeks" count confuse you, they add two weeks at the front end.

[Jpike31]

Thank you all so much for your feedback and thoughts.

[PreguntonaPensativa]

You were with guy #1 and #3 on 8-28-2015. One pulled out the other one did not. I just want to input that I got pregnant with precum from a guy that did not ejaculate. I was with a one night stand with a stranger who used a condom and the other one did too but before he did he did not use for like less than a minute i believe it was seconds...but now that I think of it maybe more but I do not remember...all I know is he got me pregnant and I am currently pregnant. So in my OPINION it could be either guy #1 or #3.

[AnnieBrooke]

a week or just a few days *before* you would want to do the test