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I need to know who is the father???
My period was Oct 4th - Oct 8th --had sex with an ex during a break up on the 12th and then with my boyfriend on the 24th when we got back together...which one is more a probability of being the father?
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Hey Annie, quick question... do you know anything about when you ovulate you get a pain, when there is implantation, you ALSO get a pain. On Oct 23rd the night before my BF and I did the deed, I remember getting a bad pain on my left side, lasted about 3-5 minutes and it made me nauseous. Do you think that that could have been an ovulation pain or implantation pain? I have felt ovulation pains before, not that strong though-and I remember thinking I must be ovulating-but it was really different than any time before, so now I'm wondering if that was actually an implantation????
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Allure, do also keep in mind that eggs (before fertilization) are said to be viable 24-36 hours. That pushes things to the 23rd, which is well within the margin for error of the later ultrasound, to indicate your boyfriend. Talk to the doc and stay optimistic.
Im in the same situation. I had sex with one guy on the 8th. 9Th. 10th. 11. And 12th. That guy vames inside me every time. The 2nd guy was one time on the 14th and he pulled out. I 99% feel its the first guys. The pull out method has always worked for me but just the fact that its 1% possible could be the 2nd guys is stresssing me out
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It's hard to say from your posts what your doctor was looking at and taking into account when he or she gave you information. It sounds like the first person (who gave you the due date of 7/10) might have been counting from the first day of your last period, which is often done by medical people, though not usually if the ultrasound indicates something different. The second ultrasound didn't sound like the first day of your last period was ruling the information the doctor gave, but it was late to be super accurate for pinpointing a conception date. (Though an ultrasound late in the 6th week or in the 7th week can be spot-on, by the 12th week the margin for error is +/- 7 days, meaning that in the 9th week the margin for error could be 2 or 3 days),
The first ultrasound suggests you conceived around October 18, and the second suggests you conceived around October 22. You had sex with your ex on the 12th and with your boyfriend on the 24th. Obviously, none of this is all that helpful nor does it point convincingly to either guy. But since one of them has to be the dad, because of the margin for error in ninth-week ultrasounds, it looks like the second guy has a better chance than the first guy. Not from the first ultrasound, but from the second. I'm not too excited about its convincingness, though.
If you were to talk all of this over with your doctor, he or she might be able to give you more clarity. You could also get a prenatal DNA test, though at their high cost (if you go to one of the trustworthy labs) sometimes people just opt to wait. In your shoes I would go through the pregnancy pretty optimistic that the baby is from your boyfriend, but would definitely test once the baby is born, to put the question to rest forever.
The first ultrasound suggests you conceived around October 18, and the second suggests you conceived around October 22. You had sex with your ex on the 12th and with your boyfriend on the 24th. Obviously, none of this is all that helpful nor does it point convincingly to either guy. But since one of them has to be the dad, because of the margin for error in ninth-week ultrasounds, it looks like the second guy has a better chance than the first guy. Not from the first ultrasound, but from the second. I'm not too excited about its convincingness, though.
If you were to talk all of this over with your doctor, he or she might be able to give you more clarity. You could also get a prenatal DNA test, though at their high cost (if you go to one of the trustworthy labs) sometimes people just opt to wait. In your shoes I would go through the pregnancy pretty optimistic that the baby is from your boyfriend, but would definitely test once the baby is born, to put the question to rest forever.
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Thank you... Im starting to think it is my boyfriends, but its just hard to get excited about, just in case it isn't his :( I did tell my BF that I think we should talk to the Dr about it too...I'll def keep you posted and thank you so much for your feedback :)
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So, your first ultrasound, which was not at your regular doctor, told you July 10, and your next ultrasound told you that you were in your ninth week and that your due date was July 14?
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Similarly, someone saying casually that you're "at 5 weeks" does not mean the same thing as 5 weeks 4 days or 5 weeks 6 days. (Or even 5 weeks 0 days.) They weren't being precise, and you need precision.
I would go in to an ob-gyn where they will take you seriously (not an ER, not a right-to-life place that gives free ultrasounds to convince women not to get abortions -- you need a real doctor's office) and get another ultrasound, either this week or the week after but no later. It is possible that with your long-ish cycles, your boyfriend is the dad. If you're at about 7 weeks when you go in, the ultrasound should still be useful for seeing this. Tell them your cycles are too irregular to count on, and ask them how many weeks GA you are (that is the count from the first day of your last period, but in your case they will give you the count from two weeks previous to when you conceived) and especially ask them when your estimated due date is. Put that due date into a conception calculator when you get home. Since the two guys are pretty far apart, if your ultrasound isn't later than your seventh week, you should be able to get a pretty clear idea which sex produced the baby.