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I need to know who is the father???
My period was Oct 4th - Oct 8th --had sex with an ex during a break up on the 12th and then with my boyfriend on the 24th when we got back together...which one is more a probability of being the father?
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COMMUNITY LEADER
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At any of your appointments, have you been given a due date? Please don't tell me x weeks x days, I mean a due date like July 10 or August 1.
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July 14th
I think they are only going off of last period, and I dont go back until Jan 18th
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Do you think the doctor was counting from your last period?
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He said that he was
Do you think any of the information you have from any of your appointments was from the ultrasound measurements of the baby only, versus from a doc looking at a little cardboard wheel and predicting when you 'should' have gotten pregnant based on your last period? You're better off telling them not to even use the date of your last period but just to tell you a due date based on the baby's size and developmental markers, in order to sort this out.
yeah the ultrasound on the 19th (in the e.r) she just said 5 weeks, yesterday my Dr gave the 9 weeks 5 days... when I had the ultrasound on the 19th there was no movement that I saw what so ever,
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And did the doctor this time give you an estimated due date from your ultrasound? Just messing with weeks and days is not as helpful as putting an e.d.d. into a conception calculator.
Generally speaking, it does not seem like the guy on the 12th is the dad. It's puzzling, because if your doc is right and you're 9 weeks 5 days now, your ultrasound on the 19th should have revealed you to be at 6 weeks, not 5 weeks.
When you got your first ultrasound, did you see the screen at the time? Did you see a moving-around embryo with a beating heart? A fifth-week ultrasound looks a lot different than a sixth-week ultrasound, (unless, of course, the person was just saying "around" 5 weeks and it might have been 5 weeks 4 days or like that.)
Anyway, the new ultrasound suggests conception around October 22, the old one suggests it was a week later, neither particularly implicates the guy on the 12th, but it is odd that you were told such varying numbers.
Generally speaking, it does not seem like the guy on the 12th is the dad. It's puzzling, because if your doc is right and you're 9 weeks 5 days now, your ultrasound on the 19th should have revealed you to be at 6 weeks, not 5 weeks.
When you got your first ultrasound, did you see the screen at the time? Did you see a moving-around embryo with a beating heart? A fifth-week ultrasound looks a lot different than a sixth-week ultrasound, (unless, of course, the person was just saying "around" 5 weeks and it might have been 5 weeks 4 days or like that.)
Anyway, the new ultrasound suggests conception around October 22, the old one suggests it was a week later, neither particularly implicates the guy on the 12th, but it is odd that you were told such varying numbers.
and no, they are 2 different Dr's...first one I was in the emergency room (something unrelated) they did an ultrasound and yesterday was with my OBGYN
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Similarly, someone saying casually that you're "at 5 weeks" does not mean the same thing as 5 weeks 4 days or 5 weeks 6 days. (Or even 5 weeks 0 days.) They weren't being precise, and you need precision.
I would go in to an ob-gyn where they will take you seriously (not an ER, not a right-to-life place that gives free ultrasounds to convince women not to get abortions -- you need a real doctor's office) and get another ultrasound, either this week or the week after but no later. It is possible that with your long-ish cycles, your boyfriend is the dad. If you're at about 7 weeks when you go in, the ultrasound should still be useful for seeing this. Tell them your cycles are too irregular to count on, and ask them how many weeks GA you are (that is the count from the first day of your last period, but in your case they will give you the count from two weeks previous to when you conceived) and especially ask them when your estimated due date is. Put that due date into a conception calculator when you get home. Since the two guys are pretty far apart, if your ultrasound isn't later than your seventh week, you should be able to get a pretty clear idea which sex produced the baby.