The ol' am I the father thread

[nastyp123]

Ok. I've been doing literally a ton of reading (i'm a journalist, it's what I do when I don't know something). Haven't slept putting all of this together. Here goes:

My ex gf and I were having pretty regular sex for quite a few months, and I was thinking we might get back together someday. We were both still single though and I went on a few dates here and there and so did she.

Well, in may she met a guy at work that she took a liking to, I didn't think much of it, knew that they probably had hooked up but oh well, I knew she'd be over him soon anyway. Her and I are really best friends, and so we go through our phases. Sorry to ramble.

Anyway, just as she is getting over said dude last month (june 13) she randomly takes a pregnancy test and it shows up positive. Crazy because literally 24 hours earlier we had been talking about kids and pregnancy and maybe having a family someday. I really want to be the father of this baby. So here's the dates: (i've been through them on every due date calendar I know of and all of that, but I needed human opinions, and I certainly can't tell my parents yet (what if it's not mine in the end?)

Me, 25/m, Her, 22/f
Her LMP: May 27th 2013
She just had her first ultrasound, she is due March 3rd, 2014 (also nuts because march 3rd is MY birthday)
Last time her and dude man had sex: sometime on June 6th 2013 (he pulled out literally every time they had sex. Was paranoid about it)
Last time her and I had sex: Evening of June 9th 2013 (I came inside her.)

Every calculator and calendar I have used has her conception date on june 10th. I know that the only way we will know for sure is a DNA test, but that won't be for a while. I suppose my question is, given the dates and circumstances (especially that he pulled out al the time), do you think this baby is mine?

I love this girl and my heart will be broken if not. I have accepted whatever happens as God's plan, but my human impatience and love for this girl have me dying over here. Thank you all in advance.

[AnnieBrooke]

How far along was she said to be (by GA) when she had the ultrasound; was she in her 7th week?  Based on an ultrasound that early, it looks like she did ovulate on the 10th, as all your research will already have told you.  But since she had sex on June 6 that was also unprotected, there is no absolute guarantee, as all of your research will also have told you.  I am sorry it is making you feel like you are dying, but obsessing over dates and asking for people's opinions will not make the situation any clearer.  If you want to invest a couple of thousand dollars (and are in the U.S.), you can get prenatal blood tests done for purposes of determining by DNA who is the father.  I assume your research has also turned this up -- just be careful if you do it; there are only a couple of companies that can do that have a good name, but there are plenty that will take your money.  

I am a little concerned that you sound as though you think the child is the key to a life with the mother.  If someone sleeps with one guy on the 6th and another guy on the 9th, she is not in love with either guy.  Has she ever implied (even before finding out she is pregnant) that she wants to step up your relationship?  Have you asked?  Has she said she will only marry you if the baby proves to be yours?  Would she let you raise the child if she does not want to be your wife?  Having a child together does make a couple stay in touch more than they might otherwise, but a romantic relationship doesn't automatically come of it, especially if you don't have one now.  

[kristennicole612]

if she has a regular period, and regular ovulation, yes her conceptiin date would be around or on june 10th..the thing is, sperm can live for up to 4-5 days inside before attaching to an egg or getting cleaned out by her period. so techically the other guy could be the father if any of his pre *** stayed in...but you could also be the father...its hard to tell in situations like this..id want to say you are the father because you have more of a chance..but its really hard to tell. youll have to get a DNA test..good luck!

[DominiqueN573]

I meant conception could of happened between 6-14

[DominiqueN573]

It doesn't matter if he ejaculated in her or took it out you can still get pregnant and it doesn't make it any less likely. Also women don't conceive on one day it can happen anywhere in that frame. If she is due on March 3 ovulation happened anywhere from june 6 to June 14. So it can very well be his baby as much as the chances that it could be yours.