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[confusedkid29]

Hi so i just found out i was pregnant...but heres the problem my last cycle was nov.28 and i missed for the month of december my question is when was i  ovulated if i had intercourse on dec.9 protected and dec.14 unprotected.....when should my due date be?

[AnnieBrooke]

I said the odds slightly favor the earlier guy because (and please see my answer above for more complete explanation of this) without an ultrasound, old-fashioned counting says you ovulated December 12.  If you really DID ovulate on December 12, the guy on the 14th might be be too late.  But this is only if you indeed did ovulate on a schedule that regular.  

You will know a lot more when you get your ultrasound.  Send me the due date, making sure it is based on the measurements of the baby, and we can recompute.  Please re-read the above about how doctors count pregnancies, so you won't freak out if the doc gives you a date based on the first day of your last period.

Take care, I'll watch for your post.

[confusedkid29]

What do you mean.....and okay i will!

[AnnieBrooke]

The odds slightly (just slightly) favor the earlier of the two guys.  Drop me a line when you get your ultrasound.

[confusedkid29]

Also sorry i put the wrong the guy that isnt my boyfriend was on (dec 8) i dont know if that makes a huge difference or not and i also took 3 at home pregnancy test i took the first one around the 20th of december.....i really dont remember the date and it came out negavtive after the 25th of december i took another one on the 30th and 31st and they both came back positive.....as well as my cycle never coming

[AnnieBrooke]

In the fifth sentence, the word "might" dropped out.  It's supposed to say, "That *might* bring you to as far forward as the 14th ..."

[AnnieBrooke]

OK, without an ultrasound, let's do some old-fashioned counting.  Period begins on November 28.  Regular 28-day cycles, assume a day-14 ovulation.  That brings you to December 12.  A woman's egg lasts approximately 24-36 hours.  That  bring you as far forward as the 14th, if you ovulated in the evening ... on the other hand, it is still within range of the guy on the 9th, since the sex was unprotected.  (Pulling out is not much help.)  

When you get your ultrasound, they'll give you an estimated due date, a number of weeks pregnant (a count from the first day of your last period, not a count from conception), and possibly a crown-to-rump measurement of the embryo.  Be sure to ask if your estimated due date is based on the measurements of the embryo, rather than just being based on your report of when your last period began.  (If your boyfriend is in the room and you don't want him to know there is a choice of possible fathers, just say your period has been a little irregular and you weren't sure that you could count from the actual first day of your last period.)  Keep in mind that all doctors will name a pregnancy count (i.e., the figure that says 6 weeks 5 days or 7 weeks 3 days) that begins on the first day of your last period, even though you didn't conceive then.  Usually they will discuss possible conception dates if you ask them specifically, i.e., "When would conception have been?"  And please don't worry, they have gotten this question lots of times so they won't be judging you.

Good luck!