Friend or foe...

[Mozxanax]

Anyone have an overbearing person in their life that makes you feel worse about yourself and issues?  Someone that says things about depression and anxiety such as...... you can control how you feel, there are people suffering much worse than you, you haven't done enough to help yourself. etc. I do, and when I've tried to stand up for myself or even be open to being better understood, I find myself dealing with a volatile, insulting, threatening personality. I deal with a lot of self doubt with the combination of adrenal exhaustion and depression, so it's been easy to make me question myself or guilt me. I'm afraid of my anger so I never really let go and stand up for myself. If there's  someone that relates somewhat could you please respond?

[Bubulous]

:) Very nice.... you said it all.   You are a kind person.... and if you are like me you may be a little too kind sometimes.

[Mozxanax]

I'm sorry to think anyone went through that. I know I can't say much to help, but I have to say it sounds like you suffered a lot of loss and still remained a good person in-spite of it.

[Bubulous]

You are welcome.  I remember missions that I went on where I was hoping I would die.  I didn't want my crew to die but I just was so depressed that I hoped I would get blown up.  Not a single soul noticed I had a problem until After two tours in two different war zones.  After the second one things started falling apart.  I lost my wife and kids, the addiction got worse, and although I was a pretty high ranking soldier my appearance and performance started to slack.  Next thing I new I was in treatment....

[Mozxanax]

Hey, thank you for responding. I realize the stigma that goes with mental illness. I've addressed this question in one way or another in my posts, so I was hoping people might share their experiences with it. It's become a blown up issue for me. I live in California where you're supposed yo be happy all the time. Anyway, thanks again.

[Bubulous]

I would say that most of us have had those people in our lives.  I was in the military for 15 years and I wasn't allowed to feel depression which finally lead to the unfortunate events that made me retire early.