I am in a similar position to you. I have two children and four grandchildren. I married when I was 22 in 1963 but am now divorced.
I have been on anti-depressants for over 20 years too. Can we expect happiness?
What anti-depressant medication are you on?
Our children have their own lives. We have to make our own way in life.
I had to give up work because of my depression . I am now retired and have joined a senior citizen group. I go out with friends I have made through that group, and do quite a lot of activities.
My children call me from time to time, and yes if my son wants me to babysit, I gladly do it. I had to give up driving, so not so easy now. I love my family very much, but I had to find interests of my own. I live alone, but am not lonely.
I am gradually weaning off my antidepressant medication. I think just to be content is enough, happiness is a very elusive thing.
I am 39 and on and off antidepressants for 20 years almost .. Never had good response to them .. tried many .. now trying mood stabiliser ,...Has anyone been on thyroxine or lithium or any mood stabiliser augmentations ?
Also for me exercise helps to some extent .. And of course whenever i get into a relationship..
You must be more experienced than me but dont stop antidepressants suddenly ... It can cause problems ...
I forgot to add hmmm ... i for last 10 years started loving myself and hence dont expect other people to make me happy . so though depression didnt ease things got easier as i live only upto MY expectations ..
Will keep in touch .. I could sure get some good advice from you too as you both are older hence wiser :)
my warm regards ...