Help? Im feeling depressed and sad, is it teen moodswings?

[Corex]

I'm 14 years old boy, and im on 7th grade. I have been feeling very sad for the last two weeks. I have been in a relationship for about a month now, and I love her as much as humanly possible. But she is feeling down most of the time too. She used to cut herself, and it became a problem. She is stopping it, but I think it will be a challenge for her.I have done it,a few times myself, and I regret it. Anyways, before she came into my life, I didnt catch myself feeling sad or depressed, but I did notice I was lonely at times, as I have only one good friend. Is the sadness and depression because of her, or is it because of teenage mood swings? I am really worried about myself. My parents divorced when I was 2, and I hate my stepdad.time

[Shawe123]

Hi. I'm 13 and have depression sounding of that you seem to be having the typical middle school problems trust me you'll know when your depressed. I missed 4 months of school and could barely get out of bed! Don't worry, if you are talk with your school counseler first like i did because i dint feel comfortable talking with my parents(they also get ou out of class:). If your still worrying talk with your mom and have her get you into a phsyciatrist

[iwannahelp]

Oh boy I remember being 14 and it was the hardest time of my life.  It's not unusual to feel lonely and overwhelmed at your age.  Your changing from a child into an adult.   Not only physically but mentally.  I personally think that in your years it's important to be picky who you hang out with.  Sometimes we pick people who are hurting because it helps us feel like our problems are not as bad but trust me, you don't want to befriend those who have heavy issues it will only bring you down to a deep dark place you do not need to be in.  Cutters suffer from deep emotional issues and she's got to work through this one on her own.  Your at a place in your life where you have two path's to take - the one that will lead you to a productive and happy adulthood, or the other that will take you down pain and heartache.  Pick the right path.

[Makayda]

Hey, sorry to hear that your feeling down but you are not alone. Even though you say you only have one good friend I'm certain there are many people in your life who love and care for you. As for your girlfriend, love at any age can be very complicated but especially when your a teenager, maybe you should just focus on the friendship part of your relationship to make thinks more simple. Less emotional. Also when I'm feeling sad I find outlets to get the sadness out so there is more room for other feelings. I write in a journal or make a list of things that bring me joy, things I'm great full for or things I would like to do. Just to remind me of the joy in my life. It's good that you reached out, keep talking to people and try not to keep all your sadness bottled up inside you. :)

[Life360_Dave]

Hi Corex, welcome to the forum. You kinda answered it yourself when you said you did not feel this before you met her. When we are young and even when we mature we are constantly looking for an identity and pick up on the feeling and values of other people.
Your picking up her depression as you care for her and have the ability to feel her anguish;.
Man to man, i dont believe she is good for you as we will have enough of our own problems in life without taking on some elses. I know this sounds cold but at your age you should be concentrating on being a success and studying hard in school preparing your financial prosperity.
Man to man, money will be a big part of your freedom in the coming years. Money is not everything but it sure feels good driving a Corvette around town.
dave