We are not married as in Malaysia, we practise monogamy unless you are Muslim. That's why it's a shame to be in this status. I have been lying to my family about our marital status too. I really have no one to turn to and I am afraid to talk this out face to face with others. I always imagine how people will dislike a woman like me, being a third party in someone's marriage.
I see that your from Malaysia. Does that mean you are his 3rd wife? I'm a little confused.
Think about what you have posted. Imagine you were reading it about someone else & think how you would advise them. Are you on any medication?Have you told a qualifed medical person (Doc/Psych) how you feel? If not, do so today. It's urgent that in your frame of mind that you get immediate help. Forget about 'jumping' or any other negative actions. Your self-esteem's been blasted & needs restoring. As an Atheist I can't help with faith problems. While you live do all you can to maintain your life, you won't have another one.It's hell to be in such a state as you are currently in, but very many of us have been there too. Recovery to a much happier state is possible, but you do need help, am sure you'll get support from others on site, but don't wait for that ~ seek help now ! Delay will mean that it will take that much longer to recover your happiness. Stop feeling ashamed, it won't do you any good, or anyone else for that matter.Why struggle on alone when you can get your much needed help. The loss of your son's enough to have initiated this downward spiral. Pick yourself up & hold your head up, but do get help now. Best wishes, George
There is a lot missing in this relationship. This man belongs to someone else, his wife. It sounds like he has no intention of leaving her so why are you staying with him? You deserve to have a family of your own and that can't happen as long as your with him. Of course he does'nt want it to end. He has the best of both worlds. You and his wife. That's not fair to either of you women. Can you get counseling where you live? I think it would do you a lot of good. Think about what you are and what you are'nt getting out of this relationship. To me, it sounds like your getting a lot of heartache and depression. Is it really worth it?