depression does anybody really listen?

[Bjk1965]

I'm depressed all of the time but I cope, but there are times. when I get really depressed I drink to help. I really only talk when I drink alot, like now. does anyone who is not depressed really listen?  I know I need help but when I get home from work and drink to forget it's too late to talk to someone, am I the only one with this problem? I know I need help and I need to talk to someone, but if I drink no one wants to listen if I don't drink I don't have the nerve to tell someone what I'm really thinking. so my question is anyone out there?  

[rosey3216]

*as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia or anything else. So message me if you need someone to talk to and ill listen because I understand how hard it is to deal with depression on a daily basis.

[rosey3216]

I feel the same. My sophomore year of high school, I slowly lost all my friends. I literally sat in the library every day at lunch by myself and cut almost every night. Months later, my friends (separately and at different times) told me that the reason was because I was depressing to be around and all I did was whine about my depression. Moral of the story is, talking to someone who has never experienced true depression themselves will never really understand. And a lot of people that don't understand it often believe that its not a real condition or illness, but it is. It's just as real as any other mental illness such

[Bjk1965]

I'm still drinking and I think it helps me.

I had to go to the doctor the other day because on the way to work I couldn't stop crying and as I got to the entrance I just couldn't walk in, with my doctor only around the corner I went there instead.

She said that I'm not depressed I'm reacting to a situation but has given me a referral to talk to someone.

I feel like ??????????? is it real or am I just being an idiot and should just pick myself up and get over it, but then I think life is so hard and no one understands what I'm going though never mind that it's life that I'm trying to get over.

[Kelz72312]

i am the same way but if you ever need to talk to some one message me and i will talk to you about how you feel okay hun. dont let this depression control your body .. you can do this take control of your body tell your self everything is okay go take a wal kwhen you feel that wy.. .

[brice1967]

Im sorry that you are going through this.  I've been there and done that.  It's a lonely road, isn't it?

I can tell you this about that.... the drinking is not helping a thing.  The problem is still there when you sober up.  It is a real hard thing to do, to step into a doctors office and tell them that you feel depressed.  It's even a harder thing to do to move to a therapist and start to tell your story.

For us guys... it feels like a weakness, doesn't it?  Having to go tell some shrink that "I don't feel good" just sounds pitiful.  I avoided doing that for 15 years after being diagnosed and it almost cost me everything, man.  Everything!!!!

What's weak is not getting help.  What's weak is not addressing the problems.  Here's the thing... whatever it is that is causing the depression is a very real thing.  Numerous things cause depression and each case of depression is a very real deal.

What we can't do is compare cases.  What caused my depression might be a walk in the park for you or someone else.  What caused yours might be nothing to me.... but it is very real and it affected and is affecting your life.  The only way to handle it is to get to the bottom of the depression and deal with that issue.

I'm more than happy to listen and offer suggestions.  I'm not a professional/doctor so I do suggest speaking to one soon.  I am simply a guy who went through this and made a lot of mistakes along the way.  Hopefully I can help people avoid some of those mistakes.

Good luck...

[Soul78man]

I feel your pain. I know I need help but when I talk about it I feel like I am whining. Plus my doctors are never around when things are really bad. I hate the way everyone looks at me like I'm broken or stupid. Sorry you are going through this.