Help me please - how to talk with therapist about a topic I'm not confortable?

[Muguette]

Hi, please anybody have any idea how I can talk to my therapist about a topic I'm not confortable with? I tried to avoid talking about the topic the last time but felt very bad after this. The topic didn't go away from my mind after the therapy. Today is my appointment but I'm so afraid to go... maybe I skip today? I don't know what to do....

[ilyena]

Perhaps you could let him know that there is a subject that you think it's important to discuss, but that you don't feel comfortable talking about it right away. This might help to talk about how you feel about this subject (afraid, ashamed, angry) and prepare you for the time when you will actually talk about it. You need to respect your own timing. It's true that these things already happened and not talking about them will not make them go away, but it's also important that you don't feel threatened or too fragile when discussing it.

I've though a similar situation with my therapist and she has been very respectful about certain topics and when I would be finally ready to talk about them.

[nursegirl6572]

It's okay to send him a message explaining the situation, but eventually, yiou will need to talk it out with him.  That's what he is there for.  He will NOT judge you, trust me.

[Muguette]

Hi all of you dear friends.
İ went to the therapy but he wanted to talk with me why i feel gulty if anybody is angry or upset about me even if there is no fould or something wrong i did. And then about a crazy dream i mailed him last week. İ was so much crying that he needed to stop.... Next time maybe and yes i can write him. Actually i tried to send him an sms about this but he asked me that he like to talked about this. Yes, maybe sms is very short for all the feelings...

[witheredrose]

I am very umcomfortable talking about ANYTHING with my psychologist and p-doc, but maybe you could do what everyone here has advised me to do, and write it down for him/her! I am going to give it a shot!
I know you will probably have done gone to your therapist and returned before reading these, but its some future advice!

[nursegirl6572]

Maddie is 100% right!  You need to go to your therapy session!  You can't get better if you're not going to your therapy appts!  A LOT of people find it hard to open up to a therapist, but again, like maddie said, there is NOTHING they haven't heard.  They are trained professionals, they are not there to judge you.  You will feel like a ton of bricks have been lifted from you once you share this information.

There will be uncomfortable moments on the path to getting better, that's unavoidable, but the harder you work at it...the easier it will become.

Take a chance, go today, and share with the therapist.  You'll be very pleasantly surprised.  Also, it's OK to tell the therapist what you've told us, that you're uneasy about revealing certain info.  Most likely, the therapist will reassure you.

Good luck, let us know how it goes.  Don't cancel!

[4Maddie44]

The therapist is there to help you.  Even if you feel uncomfortable about talking about certain things, I am sure they have heard it all before, and worse. Perhaps if you wrote down what is bothering you, and gave it to them, it might be easier.  

Please don't skip your sessions with the therapist.  I think this thing will haunt you until you are able to talk about it.  Perhaps there is a way of talking about it, perhaps not face to face, that will make it easier.  The therapist, I am sure, will be glad you are finally talking about deep rooted problems.  I bet you will feel so much better when you have told them.

Take care