You can speak to your psychiatrist about what medications could help you. As for what you could tolerate that's a matter of trial and error sometimes but often psychiatrists know what medications would work specifically when they determine exactly what's going on. Different medications are used for different purposes within their clinical judgment. As for what's online there's a lot of misinformation out there but the websites linked for informational purposes here are accurate to gain some knowledge on how medications work so you could discuss that with a psychiatrist when you see one.
well how do they know what medications you can tolerate?
and is do you work them over the internet?
i talked to my doctor and he said to talk to a phycolgist.
i have therapist, he has never prescribed anything before,
Those are "adverse side effects" of some medications meaning they are statistically rare and not every one applies to every medication. Every medication has adverse side effects including asprin. I would not decide against all medication because of it. Untreated depression itself can sometimes lead to suicide and certainly can ruin the quality of a person's life. Most of what you read about when someone with depression committed suicide is because they either weren't taking medication or stopped it. We have some websites linked up such as "Depression Central" and they discusss beneficial effects and side effects. Its good to inform yourself about medication but not to frighten yourself. Speak to your provider and make an informed decision but depression is better off treated. You can work with them to find a medication you can tolerate.