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lyieng

I have just realized i am a pathalogical lier and it has ruined my marriage and my last relationship for 4 yrs. I almost lost my job because of it. I don't know where to go for help. I can't keep going on living a lie anymore. I have ruined my life because i find it very hard to tell the truth. What I can do to change this in my life?
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Hi JR
Why not start a 12 step meeting and call it liars anonymous and you can be president of your chapter. I know by just admitting it is going to be a big step for you. You might have some fun with telling the truth. The truth is, imagine how much that you’re lying to your self.
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Hi there,

The thing you need to know about lying consistently is that most people see right through it and write you off as unreliable and not worth knowing.

You may think you got away with it but I can assure you that you did not. The old saying applies. You can fool some of the people some of the time but you can't fool all the people all the time.

Think about it. Politicians lie to you and us everyday. We know it, they know it and they continue to do it. Tell me why I challenge you to tell me why. If you can you will understand a lot about why you do it too.
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Im still quite young, but I have a problem with lying aswell. I dont lie for gain but of fear. Even small things that I shouldnt need to lie about, just scared of reactions. is it the same for you? Im trying to see now as a fresh start, ignoring any lies etc or things ive ruined in the past and forcing myself to tell the truth from now on. If you can find someone to talk to, to tell the truth to, that wont judge u it might help. No matter what it is you've lied about. It doesnt make you a bad person. Realise why you find it hard to tell the truth, and confront it.
I really hope you can get over this horrible part of your life. x
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My father is a pathological liar. It isn't that he loves the lie; it's that he hates the truth.
You may have to look within yourself... and find out what is it about the truth that you're so uncomfortable with.
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