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Does anyone ever feel like they don't fit in anywhere. No matter where I go or who I am with I always feel like I don't fit in. I feel so unwanted. I hate feeling like this. it will be 6 years in june since I have been diagnosed and nothing has changed. Will I be like this for ever? will thing ever get better. I feel so alone.
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Hey Sunshine

I have felt I didn't fit in at school but found later in life there were more people like me. I guess I'm the kind of person with a small number of friends but people I feel comfortable with and have a good connection with, rather than having a lots of friends. Does this sound more like you?
Sometimes I felt unwanted as I suffered from anxiety and OCD (still in recovery!) and for a long time family didn't understand it, and when I tried to ask repetitive questions about stuff I worried about they got angry and frustrated with me. But since they know more about my anxiety things hae changed. Also some ex-boyfriends didn't want to know/help with my anxiety, but thankfully my current boyfriend does. Do you know why you feel unwanted? I've not had depression but I know with anxiety medication and counselling has helped. Have you tried either?
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You say that it has been 6 years since you have been diagnosed and nothing has changed.  If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Have you been seeing a therapist, taking medication, going to a group therapy, exercising, writing, journaling, looking for ways to recover from this depression, or was the diagnosis the beginning and end of your recovery.

Recovery from Depression is a life time commitment from yourself to begin to have the best life that you deserve.  I think in most cases that when we think we don't fit in, the depression is telling us that, because it is hard work to get to know other people and to finally let other people know us. The fear in most cases is not that we are " less then" other people, the fear is that other people will see that we are  "less then" them when in fact most people would probably like you quite a bit.  

I do suggest that you go back to your Medical Doctor and have an honest conversation with him/her where you might get a referral to a Mental Health Professional either in a group setting or private setting.  I would love to see you in a group setting with men and women of your age and lifestyle who have all come together to bond and recover from the ravages of a life time of depression.

Good luck to you and I do hope you have the best life that life has to offer you....

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I do have a psychiatris and I am on antidepressants but nothing seems to be working. I see a social worker once a week. I have tried group therapy in the past but it didn't work for me. I feels so helpless. I don't know what I can do to make myself feel better. I am tired of feeling this way.
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Yes I am on antidepressants and I am in counselling and nothing seems to work. I still have feels of hating myself and like I don't fit in. I am not sure why I feel this way maybe it is because of my childhood. I didn't have a good childhood. I am tired of feeling this way I just want to feel better.
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Sorry to hear u are having a hard time

Maybe you need to try different medication?

Or what about the counselling - if its group maybe it doesnt suit you, have u had individual sessions?

if you had a hard childhood probably this has impacted your self esteem and now you feel this way about yourself.

I haven't got experience with depression (I'm more of an anxiety person) but have you ever tried treating yourself as you would treat a loved one? I remember reading in a Deepak Chopra book that we should look at ourselves in such a way. Just remember as a human being you are special and important. Have you got any relationships you are happy with at the moment? Maybe you need to get some new people in your life?
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