pregnant and depressed

[babby1]

I have been suffering depression for almost 3months now and don't think I can take it any longer, I hate even waking up in the morning cause the depression just hits me like a big headake, to be honest with you I don't know how am going to get threw it

[Bubulous]

I have 3 boys.  My first 2 boys were from my ex wife. She never fell into depression but she worked the entire time.  She seemed immune to the symptoms of pregnancy.  She didn't take off work until two weeks before the babies were due and even then she stayed busy.

My 3rd son was hard on my ex-girlfriend.  She fell into depression and she wouldn't even get out of bed most days.  I tried to help but there was nothing I could do.  I was stuck in this codependent relationship and exhausted myself trying to make her feel better.  I did it selflessly, as much as possible, but I am bipolar so as her mood got worse mine did too.

Like I said getting out of your routine or not being able to enjoy the things that you used to enjoy can make this so much worse.  The only thing that I can suggest is talking to somebody in your support system, or if you have tried that keep coming back here and tell us what is going on.  You can make it through this and I am glad that you notice there is a problem and are addressing it.

Larry

[babby1]

Thanks for your support I am due 7th of feb and that when my world will be turned upside down, I constantly feel sick I can't sleep or even have a conversation with anyone, and I just can't cope anymore

[Bubulous]

Hi and welcome to the forum,

I don't know if you have been diagnosed with any type of mood disorder or if this is because of the pregnancy or if it is cognitive.

From what I have read it seems like you are nearing the end of your pregnancy and obviously that could cause mood problems.  I've seen it before.  For a lot of people in the later stages of pregnancy they may get down just because they aren't able to do things they used to be able to do.  It means you can't continue with your routine or participate in activities that you used to be able to do.  

You are going to get through this.  Depression is a hole that is hard to climb out of but you can do it.  I don't know much about you but try to look back at the last few months and see what has changed.  Also look at the negative thoughts that you may have bottles up or not expressed to anybody.  You don't have to tell us about them but don't hide from them.  In cognitive behavioral therapy it talks about how your thoughts cause feelings which effect your mood.  Depression collects negative thoughts and uses them against you.  
Talking to your doctor and expressing your feelings will help, you can also come back here and get support if you wish.

Stay strong, some of us fight this depression everyday and although we don't win everyday, the days that we do are what makes it worth fighting.

Larry