Hello,
From your symptoms the possibility of a melanoma definitely needs to be ruled out. If you notice changes in the mole's/mark’s color, height, size or shape, you should have a dermatologist evaluate it. You also should have it checked if it bleeds, oozes, itches, appear scaly, or become tender or painful.Otherwise it should be left as such.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your dermatologist. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.
As what you are mentioned, I am really sorry to tell you that I am ,too, really concerned about your moles. The symptoms are more likely to be melanoma or skin cancer. The family history of cancer is a risk factor and you are above 40 yo, and a sun lover are also a risk factor. But GOOD NEWS are they sounds like at an early stage of melanoma, probably carcinoma in-situ(stage 0).highly curable. No chemo or other treatments are needed. Only need to be cut off. BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO BE QUICK in case the melanoma is very invasive that it could invade tissues under the skin and spreads. GOOD LUCK and please inform how it turns out. I hope for the best