Type I Diabetes and Marriage

[Mary031087]

Is it advisable for people with juvenile-onset diabetes to get married? My parents are forcing me to break up with a diabetic because he is not "marriage material".. apparently diabetics who have had diabetes for a long time (this boy has had it since 17) begin complications really early.. my dad is an eye doctor and he says that he gets patients with diabetic complications in their eyes every single day, and that they get blind by their 40s if they even last that long.. not to mention all these other long-term complications... gangrenes, amputations, strokes, etc etc... are my parents being overprotective or do they have a point?

[CatLi12]

Of course they can get married. I have had diabetes for only a bit, but know three eople who have had diabetes since being a teenager, they all have families, and one is 80+ years old. Diabetes complications USUALLY only occur in those with poorly managrd diabetes. If you love this person and believe that you could make it through an unlikely complication with them (assuming they manage their diabetes well)  then marry them. Yes, your parents are being a bit paranoid, but honestly it is because they don't want your partner to die on you. This is unlikely and it seems your parents assume this since they have only been exposed to the unfortunate cases. Try to see if they and your partner would be willing to do a  teaching on their diabetes, and if not your parents will see that soon enough you'll both be fine! Best of luck. Diabetes isn't easy, but I believe you two can make it work!

[Jaxjackson]

This is non-sense. If the Type 1 diabetic is taking care of himself, works out, eats well, he will be very healthy. My bf of 5 years is a Type 1 and he 43, he is very healthy stronger than anyone you'll probably meet is a fire-fighter and all around amazing.

[jetskilove]

wow thank you everyone for posting their comments. I am a type 1 diabetic aswell, now 24, diagnosed at 22 (female).  I am sorry your parents feel that way about your boyfriend, but lets face it, its just ridiculous especially at these times.  How are you gonna feel if you break up with him and a cure comes up for type 1 diabetes in a few years...are you going to ask him to get back with you??

Trust me as long as your boyfriend takes care of himself your parents need to get over themselves assuming thats the only reason they dont like him.  
"treat others how you'd wanna be treated"
Golden rule !!!!
all the best :)

[jetskilove]

wow than you everyone for posting their comments. I am a type 1 diabetic aswell, now 24, diagnosed at 22 (female).  I am sorry your parents feel that way about your boyfriend, but lets face it, its just ridiculous especially at these times.  How are you gonna feel if you break up with him and a cure comes up for type 1 diabetes in a few years...are you going to ask him to get back with you??

Trust me as long as your boyfriend takes care of himself your parents need to get over themselves assuming thats the only reason they dont like him.  
"treat others how you'd wanna be treated"
Golden rule !!!!
all the best :)

[sus2102]

hi to all

     I am type 1 daibetic from my 14th year........ now am 25 . but i didnt get marriage . My parents are worried about me , me tooo.i dnt know what will happens in future . I hopefully waiting for my life partner........

[t2aditi]

hi,
I am in Love with a Type 1 diabetic.. and let me tell you it is the most wonderful thing to have known him. He is 25 and has recently been diagnoized type 1 a year ago.
He takes care of himself, eats the right thing at the right time, takes his shots regularly. and belive me life has been just beautiful, though we are not married now, but very soon want to. I think because of this 1 reason, love would not turn away. It has taught me one thing and that is to understand his needs and care for him and support him all way.

Life is still as beautiful as always. There is no reason that you should back out because this 1 reason. We have our medical experts to always guide us.. :)