i know what you are going through!!!!!!!!!!!! I used to take Depakote and Tegretol at the same time. And yes, just like you experienced horrible things while i was on the depakote too. I would have more dizziness and headaches........
I stopped taking the depakote when I got pregnant with my second child. I remember the doctor telling me not to take it for a while to see if would have any seizures while removing me from that medicine; luckily, i didn't; and, well haven't taken it since. But, I am still on Tegretol.
I took it for a while. It was horrible. Finally figured out it was the depakote and got off of it.