I have heard of mdweblive.com and your husband can consult with his own doctor (he just needs to invite his doctor to participate) or he can choose another doctor. If the doctor thinks your husband needs testing, he will be able to have the testing done and then he and the doctor can review the results over the internet. It is great to be able to have the convenience of visiting the doctor from the comfort of home without having to drive and wait at the doctors office.
Your husband MUST see the doctor.
I'm sure he can request to see a male doctor, it does make it easier.
No, I have not heard of this website, but this is not the time to be doing a half-way study, in my opinion. ED is something family doctors deal with all the time, and it is nothing to be embarrassed about. This is why we have physicians, so that we can get help when we alone cannot solve things in a timely manner. It is time to go in, get help, and then enjoy the results with his wife without further ado.