erectile dysfunction

[man1991]

I'm 22 and can't get hard when having sex, and ejaculate without being hard. What are the possible reasons and how to fix this problem?

[man1991]

no i have never been like this. actually its been a while since i had sex. ive been rly busy, there hasnt been any porn either. masturbations also very rare. but i found someone recently and i dunno why i cant perform. its happened the first time and cuz i was afraid it would happen again, it did happen again hehe. dunno how to make myself more comfortable abt it

[man1991]

ur right, recently it has felt more like a chore than something i wanna do. but i rly like this person im with and i wanna show em a gd time. maybe that does cause me stress and makes me anxious and hesitant to do it.
How to be more comfortable in that area?

[yoexp]

U need to understand the reason first, have u always been like this foreever? or it has started recently? what have u been doing before it started for you? have u been watching porn movies or masturbating excessively over some period before you got these symptoms??

[lovemistake]

I would suggest, especially at your age, that you simply need to relax about sexual intercourse and really enjoy it.  It's likely to be the fact that the aspect of sex is on your mind, rather than the enjoyment.  I had exactly this problem during my 20s and 30s and it happened when I changed regular partners.  In time, I found that I became more comfortable in the relationship and gained pleasure from being a couple and pleasuring each other without worry of performance.  Just relax and try to enjoy it, rather than worrying about performance.  It may be helpful to talk about it with your partner.