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help me help my husband with ed
I need help to help my husband with his ed, we have been married for 22 year but 15 years ago after the birth of our 2nd son i went out on a girls night to a male stripper. when i got home and he asked how my night was i (like an idiot) told my husband that the stripper was hung like a donky, now to me as our mariage was so strong and i was and still are married to a hansom man who takes care of himself and who has a big 8" penis himself, i did not see the problem. but as time passed this became a big problem and has led to major issues for him, the worst being ED,
we have argued over this for years and i make no excusses but with working full time and raising two children i perhaps have not taken it seriously enough, now i worry about him mentaly as he his so down, it affects his every minite of every day,he is up all night unable to slep and he has very dark throughs even want to know about my prevous experiances and as ive been with him since i was 16 they could never compair to what we have (we were very young teenagers 10 seconds and over)
he does blame me for the problem and for not helping him,he says our sex life needs sparking up so when i try the tells me im putting to much pressure on him, he has been to the doctors and has been checked out and the doctor said there was no medical problem, so he has been getting pills of the net to help but i can tell sometimes when he has taken them as he is so hot like he has a fever, i know he loves me and he just want to get back to normal but he is in such a dark hole and gets so angry with me i dont know what to do
we have argued over this for years and i make no excusses but with working full time and raising two children i perhaps have not taken it seriously enough, now i worry about him mentaly as he his so down, it affects his every minite of every day,he is up all night unable to slep and he has very dark throughs even want to know about my prevous experiances and as ive been with him since i was 16 they could never compair to what we have (we were very young teenagers 10 seconds and over)
he does blame me for the problem and for not helping him,he says our sex life needs sparking up so when i try the tells me im putting to much pressure on him, he has been to the doctors and has been checked out and the doctor said there was no medical problem, so he has been getting pills of the net to help but i can tell sometimes when he has taken them as he is so hot like he has a fever, i know he loves me and he just want to get back to normal but he is in such a dark hole and gets so angry with me i dont know what to do
From your description, I think you are very fortunate to have a guy with deep feelings. Unfortunately, he has gotten his brain into a dark loop he doesn't know how to get out of.
If I were you, I would get him a nice card with a very personal sentiment on it. Then I would also write him a love letter in it, describing why he is so special to you and irreplaceable. You could apologize for hurting him in the past, but don't go into detail about it. This should be all positive words, praising the characteristics that make him uniquely special to you. You can even praise physical traits you enjoy, such as strong shoulders or his sexy muscular back or legs or arms or whatever it is you especially find attractive. Just help him realize how much you value him and your relationship. Cook him a nice dinner and present the card, maybe with a nice wine and fire in the fireplace. Rent a movie and snuggle with no pressure. Maybe he will warm up and feel more secure.
I am dating a guy with this kind of personality. They are very special and offer the richest possible intimate relationships. We just have to realize how deeply they feel things compared to some other personalities. (I am guessing he is a blue and you might be a yellow, which is the most tricky yet potentially satisfying personality match. Perhaps if you and he study the different personalities, you will understand each other better).
The Color Code – www.colorcode.com
www.colorcode.com/The Color Code Color Personality Test. ... Experience the most insightful personality test in existence. Are you a RED, BLUE, WHITE, or YELLOW? ...
Personality Test - My Profile - About - Trainer Tools
Dr. Hartman's Personality Test
www.angelfire.com/ky/kyliew/test.htmlThe following is a personality test adapted from the book, The Color Code, by Dr. Taylor ... are grouped into four color categories: Red, Blue, White, and Yellow. ...
Hartman Personality Profile - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hartman_Personality_ProfileThe Hartman Personality Profile also known as The Color Code, created by Dr. Taylor Hartman, divides personalities into four colors: Red (the power wielders), Blue (the do-gooders), White (the peacekeepers), and Yellow (the fun lovers). Although different ... 20%; and Yellows 20%. A 45-question test assesses one's color. ...
If I were you, I would get him a nice card with a very personal sentiment on it. Then I would also write him a love letter in it, describing why he is so special to you and irreplaceable. You could apologize for hurting him in the past, but don't go into detail about it. This should be all positive words, praising the characteristics that make him uniquely special to you. You can even praise physical traits you enjoy, such as strong shoulders or his sexy muscular back or legs or arms or whatever it is you especially find attractive. Just help him realize how much you value him and your relationship. Cook him a nice dinner and present the card, maybe with a nice wine and fire in the fireplace. Rent a movie and snuggle with no pressure. Maybe he will warm up and feel more secure.
I am dating a guy with this kind of personality. They are very special and offer the richest possible intimate relationships. We just have to realize how deeply they feel things compared to some other personalities. (I am guessing he is a blue and you might be a yellow, which is the most tricky yet potentially satisfying personality match. Perhaps if you and he study the different personalities, you will understand each other better).
The Color Code – www.colorcode.com
www.colorcode.com/The Color Code Color Personality Test. ... Experience the most insightful personality test in existence. Are you a RED, BLUE, WHITE, or YELLOW? ...
Personality Test - My Profile - About - Trainer Tools
Dr. Hartman's Personality Test
www.angelfire.com/ky/kyliew/test.htmlThe following is a personality test adapted from the book, The Color Code, by Dr. Taylor ... are grouped into four color categories: Red, Blue, White, and Yellow. ...
Hartman Personality Profile - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hartman_Personality_ProfileThe Hartman Personality Profile also known as The Color Code, created by Dr. Taylor Hartman, divides personalities into four colors: Red (the power wielders), Blue (the do-gooders), White (the peacekeepers), and Yellow (the fun lovers). Although different ... 20%; and Yellows 20%. A 45-question test assesses one's color. ...
I'm sure if you husband was to know that he was 3 and a half inches bigger than the national averagem he would feel better!
What you did was make a light-hearted joke, but us men can take things seriously especially if we are made to feel inadequate.
Im sure he's reading into the situation too much, just try and have a discussion about it and close the book. He has nothing to worry about, your still with him after all these years, so must have a sex life that is worth fighting for.
Let me know how you get on, hope this helps,
Adam
What you did was make a light-hearted joke, but us men can take things seriously especially if we are made to feel inadequate.
Im sure he's reading into the situation too much, just try and have a discussion about it and close the book. He has nothing to worry about, your still with him after all these years, so must have a sex life that is worth fighting for.
Let me know how you get on, hope this helps,
Adam
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