trying to lose weight is depressing me.

[missjabeen]

So, i'm 22 years old, i now weigh about 100kg. i've always been on the bigger side, but it didn't really affect me, i used to be happy and outgoing, always ready to party. But now i'm at my largest ever and it's depressing me and making me uncomfortable. i hate doing anything that involves me being in large groups, i feel like everyone's staring at me (probably are since i'm the biggest person in the room *rolls eyes*) anyway, back to the point!
it's not like i haven't tried losing weight, i've practically tried every diet under the sun; the 3 day diet, atkins, cabbage soup, the beyonce diet, detox diet, cutting out junk food, smaller portions whenever i ate,and eating like a regular healthy person, 3 healthy small meals a day.
when i was 17, i lost around 2 stones (12.7kg) in about 6-8weeks, and that was with the 3day diet as well as fastwalking 6 times a week for an hour each. but when i started eating normally again, the weight jumped straight back on.
when i was 19, i dropped about a stone just by eating very small meals, which i stopped because it really wasn't very healthy, my skin looked awful!
just before my 21st birthday last summer, i was determined to make it work and began eating super healthily and was going to gym twice a day (about 3hours in total) doing mainly cardio and some weights to stop my skin sagging (bingo wings at 21? not pretty!) anyway, my weight shot up 6KG in the first 2 weeks. but in the space of 6weeks i'd lost 10kg. but, i'm muslim, and ramadan started so i couldn't keep it up and in those 4 weeks my weight shot back up to pretty much where i started!
Now, i'm trying to eat small healthy meals and get in atleast an hour of fast walking every other day, but my weight's not budging. To add to it, i've got horrible stretch marks on my stomach that have gotten bigger and angrier over the past 2 months. i ended up with erythema nodosum (inflammation of the fat cells) on both my legs, each one started as what looked like a tiny bruise and spread over the front of my leg (ankle to knee) and lasted around 6 months. i'm just fed up now. the doctor's can't seem to find anything wrong with me. but there has to be. i eat less then most people, i snack every now and again, and i'm an active person. what more can i do? it's at the point now where i'm practically crying myself to sleep because i don't feel pretty anymore and there's nothing that's working for me.
sorry for being so long, and thanks to anyone that helps me out...or even bothers to read everything i've just written! :) x

[ducky406]

I agree with Yanez, you can't just do a diet and then expect things to change. "Diet" is also a bad way to think about it, because it has to be a full lifestyle change not just a week or two of healthier eating. Also it's possible to eat too little to loose weight. If you're body isn't getting what it believes is enough to run itself, sometimes it holds on to weight! Have you tried looking into a program like Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Curves, or the Biggest Looser Club (usually through work)? I don't know if you could eat some of the foods, depending on how strict of a food diet your particular sect follows. But they may be able to help point you in a direction.

Out of curiosity have your doctors tested your thyroid levels- your TSH, T4 and T3? If they haven't you may want to ask them to. Weight issues can be caused by thyroid problems.

Also you may want to talk to a religious leader about fasting. It's possible it could be harming your body. Honestly I'm not too familiar with Islamic traditions and rules, but one of my Christian friends who is hypoglycemic "fasts" by only consuming the bare necessity her body needs to function. I know of another person who isn't allowed medically to fast. In both cases their pastors said it was ok, as long as they were respectful/ reverent of the foods they ate and avoided anything gluttonous. So I think it maybe a good idea to talk to a leader if you find that fasting is detrimental to your health.

[Yanez]

One of your greatest treasures is your age ! I am almost the double and I am also struggling with obesity. My metabolism is getting slower. I have also tried every single diet in this world and spent a lot of money.
I think the solution is not a diet, or just exercise or a possitive attitude, but the three of them together forever, as a lifestyle can make the difference. i decided not to spend more money, so I looked for web sites with free information. I have been performing exercises for 3 months that I found in www.exercisesandworkout.com and following a healthy diet prescribed by my doctor. Every single day I encourage myself by thinking that I am not in a diet, but I think that this is my new life and I am getting results. I feel happy because I am doing my best effort. You are younger and full of energy, so try a mix of diet + exercise +  possitive attitude forever !