17 year old parents

[aj93]

is it wrong for two 17year olds to wanna have a baby and have been trying for close to a year? live together and getting married soon.

[aj93]

thank you. can anyone tell me if no period means no ovulation??? i cant find the true answer anywhere. everywhere i ask i get all kinds of diff. answers!

[ProudMommy120308]

  I'd have to agree with a lot of these women. I got pregnant at 21 with my son had him at the age of 22, yeah I thought I could handle every little thing. They take a lot of work. Waking up at odd hours of the night, not getting much sleep, then they get older and more work arrives. I'll be 25 next month, got married to my son's father last year. We barely spend time just the 2 of us since our son was born. My mother in law didn't want anything to do with our son at the beginning, long story there. We have to plan ahead just to step out the door for anything. Do we have his diaper bag? Is his car seat secure enough? Does he need his diaper changed before we go? Where is the nearest place with a restroom in case he needs changed? It does get fun to watch them grow, I mean I love my son so much, he's going on 3 now and bugging for a little sister/brother. Which now we are definitely ready for another one but it does get tough when you want to sleep in but can't because you're husband is working and you have to get up, make him breakfast. Make sure he eats right. Feed him snacks, lunch and dinner. Give him a bath, struggle just to change his diapers and clothes, keep him from climbing the stairs by himself, keep him away from things he shouldn't get into and the list goes on and on. Don't get me wrong kids are a joy to have but it can be stressful to not even get 5 minutes to shower/sit/read a book. It takes a lot of time and a lot of patience with a child. I've gotten so used to it so it doesn't bother me. I don't have any friends where I live at. The only family I have near me are my in laws and they do get annoying some times but I love them dearly. Children do make you grow up a lot quicker than expected. Also it is hard even on your marriage since you don't have too much time together except at night but then you're both so tired to even talk, you just lie and bed and you're out before telling each other good night. And that was during the first year after giving birth. When they get older the more and more they can wear you out but it does take a bit of time to be able to fit in a little bit of together ness before you turn out the lights and fall asleep. Then each day starts it all over again. I'm not trying to say don't do this, it's yours and your partner's decision. I wish you the best and hope that you'd be able to handle all the responsiblities as parents and as a married couple
Best of luck and Best wishes to you with everything :)

[aj93]

well thats why i call him my future husband. because we are getting married very soon and i am ready. oh and the birth control thing wont work im done with it. i was on it for two years and it messed me up sooooo bad then i got off of it and didnt have a period for over a yeah then i went to the doc. and they gave me pills to start my period it worked i had my period october 7th then i haven had one since other than when i tried birth control one more time then i had my period for a whole month now nothing and im off of it again now because everything was just fine and normal b4 they messed me up very bad on bc!:,(

[hulahutgirl]

it's been said to wait...and you've fought back... I'm not going to say wait until a certain age...because lets face it... some people aren't ready for a child at 17 but some are. Some people would hate to be 30 and just having their first child...others dream to be that old when they first conceive!

What I will say...is why not get married first...then try for that baby. I've wanted a baby since I was about 15...doesn't mean I went out and had one... I'm desperately trying for a baby now...and I'm only 22. I've been trying for 2 years but both of those years I've been married. No, marriage isn't a guarantee that the baby's father will definitely stay around...but it's at least a step in the right direction. Let me say...although I've prayed and dreamed of a baby for the past 2 years...until very recently if we'd had a child it would have been so hard financially. Now, we both have jobs that pay well...and we're in a lot better place for a baby.

I know exactly how you feel though. Sometimes it's hard to hide that baby want inside...but maybe just a little longer. My mom had her first child at age 16... she had 7 more after that...she worked 40hrs a week...she went to school full time... and she now has her Masters degree. Yes, she will tell you she loves her children...but she'll tell you how she wishes she'd gotten an education first...so that's something to think about to.

Good luck with everything. =)

[sweetpea03]

I'm glad you are going for a doctor's appointment. While you are there, you should discuss birth control options for the time being until you are ready to have a baby in the future. Many times the doctor will put you on the birth control pill anyways to 'restart' your period, so I would suggest you continue to use it. Then you can go to school to further your education, get a stable job with a stable income, and save up money to prepare yourself for a family. Your dream may turn into a nightmare if you get pregnant soon, because you will struggle to raise a baby in your current situation. Give yourself some time and you can have a wonderful family down the road.

[aj93]

yeah i was really down but im much beter now. i talked to my mom yesterday and she made me feel so much better:) she let me know that even without a period i still ovulate so thats good to hear and she is making me a doc. app. a.s.a.p. so maybe ill finmd out whats wrong in the next week or so. thanx for the comment. not giving up my dream:) im gonna keep reaching out to god for what i want and let him hold it all in his hands:)