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[Babybaw4]

Hi Ladies
I just want to get this out and cant talk to my DH or anyone else just afraid of being judged. I had went through a Miscarriage Sept 12 I was 8-weeks. As fertility is emotionally, physically, stressful and expensive. You just feel like such a waste. My DH has no sperm so we are using Donar sperm which adds more stress of expense. Anyways when I had the D&C done I was relieved just cause I was going to the doc for weeks at least every 2-days ultrasounds, blood work, promises unsure you name it. Now I am feeling I dont want to try again, I know if my Dh knew he would be crushed, I said when it happened I wanted to try Jan new year fresh start he wanted to go sooner, well he doesnt have to go to the doctors and get picked and poked, painful inseminations. you name it which I am sure you all are familar with. Some family members of mine think I was only doing the fertility thing for him and not for myself (I do question myself after hearing it wondering is that true) I guess I have mixed emotions about it all right now, Maybe it will go away and change but right now I am not 1-bit excited or thrilled about going through  that again. Does this feeling go away or is it something I need to evulate? I guess I am a bit unsure about it all right now.. Anyone else feel this way then and maybe now and what did you do to help yourself. Thanks so much!

[Babybaw4]

Thanks for the support and your right time will heal and its emotionally and I am sure after the start of the new year hopfully things will get better.

[candie429]

I am so sorry for everything you have had to go through.  I can only imagine how much you have had to endure, not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually.  You and your dh are definitely in this together, so it's important to sort out your feelings and try to talk it out with him.  At this point, I think it's only natural to feel the way you do.  You put so much effort into ttc, especially when donors and insemination is concerned, and it has to be devastating to think that you need to somehow find the strength to do it all again.  It probably doesn't seem like it right now, but I'm sure that time will heal your wounds.  If you feel like you need a break, then I'm sure he will understand.  Take care of yourself and I pray that everything works out for you.  

[Babybaw4]

Your Right. I do appreciate your feed back its like I already knew the answer to speak to him just didnt know what it will turn into. I guess I go back and forth about it. Your right time heals everything

[kikicoates78]

First of all I'm so sorry I didn't know you had lost :( I think if you need time you should take time, Don't do it all again if you are not ready. It is somthing that your DH is very passionate about, I guess and he is your husband so you have to consider his family wishes as well, it can be a relationship breaker if you are not on the same page. I'm sorry you are going through this, but you need to talk to DH and try to help him inderstand! I wish you all the best dear. ((HUGS))