still hoping

[amy17]

Hi everyone,
i woke up this morning with an emptiness in my stomach. Yesterday i learned that i wasn't pregnant and it was my first try. they transfered 2 good embryos but... unfortunately nothing happened. and i didn't even bleed. i actually don't have my period yet.  i am going to go for a second try and have to consult the dr first, but i am so anxious. what if the second one goes wrong? it will be suicide. my dr told me previously that it's ok to not get pregnant the first time and they will try till i get pregnant, but oh god, it's sooooo frustrating. i don't want to lose hope, though. any feedback will be appreciated. it helps talking to someone. thx. :(

[jjsh44]

Amy I am so very sorry. I can't even imagine. Talk about an emotional rollercoaster, the excitement of the transfer and then that let down you had to face. Please don't give up hope-this will happen for you. There are too many wonderful women ttc like yourself who deserve to have a little one it just has to happen. Hang in there. I know it is hard.
Lots of love.

[Brittany_Nichole]

Just look at the bright side it will happen when it is time. Me and my Husband tried for a year but now we have a beautiful baby girl and couldn't be happier.

[amy17]

thank you.

[wanting4#1]

I just want to say that I am sorry for your loss.  My first IVF was not successful, either and it devastated me.  I really can only offer you that there is light at the end of the tunnel - I believe that the light is different for each of us and therefore, there is no clearcut strategy for dealing with such a horrible loss!  

I will pray for you to have strength and guidance throughout your process!

[Houston79]

This happened to me too. Actually, I got a BFP but I lost them at about 5weeks. It is very sad, but we are slowly picking up the peices and are going to try IVF again. I learned yesterday too and it is very numbing. I will be miscarrying in the next couple of days.  I feel for you, but you need to still keep hoping. =)

[StillTrying101]

I"m sorry y ou are having to go thru all of this. I can't imagine the disappointment whne you get a BFN after IVF.
I've heard the same thing tho, that on average it takes 3 tries.
This is a great site and a lot of woman in the same situation as you.
Hang in there!

[sarge1]

I'm sorry your first try was not successful.  It is a big investment, of time, money, and especially emotions.   I once read that the average number of tries before a successful IVF is 3.  You should know that I am on my third, and got pregnant on both my second and third tries.  Consulting with the doctor will help-you can discuss what you thought went wrong, and perhaps make corrections to your medication protocol.  Don't give up.