D&C or miscarrage and trying again

[Anya1984]

Hello ladies.....for those who know me, I was 6 weeks pregnant..went to u/c today and doc didn't see embryo in gestational sac which means that it stopped developing....on Tuesday Im going for another u/c to confirm...after that I either going to have a natural m/c (btw, does anyone know how to make it happen?) or going under D&C (how is the procedure done)?

My question is, how soon can we start trying for a new cycle after miscarrage?????

Im soooo depressed right now and would like some input.......

[scienceteacher79]

Oh sweetie - I am sooooooo sorry!!! As for the natural M/C vs D and C - I can say I had both WITH ONE PREGNANCY! Ok, heres my tale: I started bleeding March 4th, went to RE on March 5th and they confirmed M/C and said I ddin't need a D and C because most of it had gotten out of my uterus by then and was basically sitting on my cevix waiting to leave. Yeah right! After bleeding for about 5 days, I stopped bleeding. All the tissue had come out, I thought. It was tiny bits here and there and then a big one I pased in the middle of the night. I think I was so numb I just kinda said "ok, that has to be all of it". On the 21st of March I started to bleed bright bright red blood and my Sis in law, who had lost the 2 she concieved this year, knew this wasn't good and sent me to the ER and I ended up having a D and C. Here I was over two weeks past my miscarriage thinking I was 2 weeks closer to trying again and this happened. Apparently there was still a lot of tissue in there. So, if I had to do it again, I would have had the D and C to make SURE all of it was out so I could heal quicker and get back to TTC as soon as possible.  Now, my RE said that as soon as I get my 1st AF I can get back to TTC and she even wanted to put me back on the meds right away. I don't know if this is what all RE's do, but mine was raring to go again  :) Hubby and I think we will wait and try naturally this month (whenever AF shows - should be in a few days based on my tempertures) and go back to meds if w don't succeed this time. It is basically our feeling that we do not want to waste money if my lining is not back to where it needs to be from the D and C. The docs scrape it pretty thin to get all of the tissue out so you don't get an infection or need another D and C. I hope this helps you. If it were me, I would have the D and C to make sure all of it gets out and you can get back to TTC quicker. With a natural M/C, you will have to wait for it to happen. I think there are some meds the docs can give you to get it started faster, but I am not sure.

Still hold on to a little hope, 6 weeks is still early. You never know what might happen. DId he do bloodwork to see if your HCG is rising. You need to do that before you make ANY decision. Tell him you want to see the numbers. Have B/W done one day and go back 2 days later and see what the results are before you make ANY decisions. Good luck, you will deal with this. I promise and it will be that much btter when you get pregnant again. Big hugs.

PS: If you have a D and C, it doesn't hurt, I barely bled after mine. And I popped an egg out about 12 days later :) HUGS!

[Anya1984]

Thank you for your tale...you reassured me that I should do D&C as oppose to wait till it comes out naturally which might take forever.....
My HCG numbers were VERY high and everything was good but then Doc said today that at this point, there should be something visable in gestational sac and it wasnt...I don't think anything appears by Tuesday, the embryo just stopped growing, you know...how far along were you when you had your m/c??

[scienceteacher79]

6 and a half weeks. just make sure they do another bloodtest to see what the hcg is doing...if you do have a m/c, we are here for you as you go through it. Been there, done that and I survived, you will too. HUGS!!

[Anya1984]

so your baby died at that age, same as mine...I am 6 and a half weeks today...so how soon after that did you have a natural? Cuz my baby didn't grow from week 5 so it has been a week already and I have no symptoms of m/c.....how b/w is going to help though? If they can't see embryo in gest sac then I need to have d&c done...If I had it natural soon, I would be ok, and if not (im giving it a week) then I would prefer d&C...although I heard crazy stories about it, lots of pain and other stuff....cuz they ipen your cervix and so on....:( I just want to start again...
how soon after d&C were u allowed to start trying?
Cuz with my syndrom, I can't have period and O, so they will have to put me on provera to get my period....I don't know...

[tamjun03]

Hi Anya

My doc basically said that both a D & C and natural have + and -.  The thing is that even if you let the m/c occur naturally you may still have to have a D & C.  Tissue can be left up there and also they don't want to increase your chance for infection.  That is why I chose to go with the D & C.  I did not want to wait for it to happen and then still have to have the D & C anyways.  Now I am not a Dr. and I am only repeated what mine told me but he explained the procedure as this.........I have to ****** the night before. I will have anesthisia and antibiotics given to me that morning ( similiar to the transfer but instead of putting in they will be taking out ). My cervix will be dialated.The procedure itself will be a small straw - like tube inserted they will be able to follow exactly where it is placed and clean out any fetal or placental tissue. The process itself should be about 10-15 mins.  My post op instructions tell me to"  Spend the remainder of the day resting and taking it easy.  ** Advises that I may experience:  Fatigue, Vaginal Bleeding, Abdominal discomfort, often a burised or cramping sensation.  These discomforts should improve rapidly.  Symptoms usually  resolve in the day following surgery.....but may persist for 2-3 days.  They tell me not to have sex for one week. No baths, swimming, hot tubs  at least 5 days.  No douching or tampons.  They advise me to use tylenol as needed - so I don't think that it's going to be any worse than a natural m/c.  Last night my husband and I went to the movies just to get out of the house.  I am wearing a pad everywhere I go and paranoid that the m/c could happen at any moment.  I just feel that for me having that clean slate and not having to keep agonizing over what my body is going to do is better for me.  Hope this helps!!!!

[ashort]

Anya-  A natural m/c can take a while.  The D and C's don't hurt mine were about 20 mins.  You are in and out.  It isn't painful.  Physically you will feel better in no time.  My baby didn't grow from 5 weeks to 6 either.  I was on progesterone so my RE said that's why I didn't have any symptoms.  I really only bled for about 1 or 2 days after my D and C.  I hope you make a decision that is good for you.  We are here if you want to talk.  I wish you the best!

tamjun-  I'm so sorry for your loss too!  Good luck with your D and C.  I hope you have a fast recovery and will be ttc again soon!