Stress while pregnant

[wfaMiracle]

Just wondering what everyone thought about stress during pregnancy. I hear cnflicting information out there. I do feel like Ive been under alot of stress and going through the whole IVF thing was stressfull enough. Ive been working (PT) during fertility treatments (well one day less a week) Now thinking about going back FT. Im only 5 weeks along and finally getting such great new for my and my husband. Now one of our friends is causing stress in our lives..we where just so happy and now I feel stress because of this situation. To me it seems so selfish that someone who knows that we have been trying for 2 yrs and went through all the iVF and finally are pregnant is causing conflict in our lives over some pety stuff that is just bringing all the attention back on him. His wife just had an oops and they have there healthy baby. Why cant we just have some peace in our lives? My husband and I just want some happiness. Why do people do this? I got nervous because after this"friend" said what he had to say (all concerned about himself) I started getting  stressed that got a bad headache and my stomach  started to cramp. Please help.

[wfaMiracle]

Thank you for your comments. Ive pretty much got it out of my mind. My husband said that he will work it out and for me not to worry. I guess I just always worry in general. Try not to ....just the way I am I guess. Anyway, I just want this time for my husband and I to enjoy and be happy. He needs to let it go on his side so we can start enjoying these moments again.

[usuk]

Few doctors will say stress will cause a miscarriage. A healthy baby is hard to harm. This seemed crass to me but someone once told me if you had an unwanted pregnancy - even then you could not worry yourself into an abortion, you need a procedure. So that is one side of it.

On the other side, I had 3 MCs and 2 were not due to bad chromosomes. I can say that after each I had two very high stress weekends. I could feel the adrenaline pumping and afterwards just felt sick. I buried my feelings thinking it would be bad to get upset and that as long as I was pregnant that I could handle it and nothing else matters. But some say it is bad to let it steep inside you as well.

In the end, you can only try and control your responses to this. It may be that you are stressed because you are finally pregnant and just want now to be left alone to enjoy it. Good luck.

[4everwealth]

I dont really have any info on how to handle stress during pregnancy....I havent researched that much on it. I am pregnant from my first IVF treatment after 5yrs of ttc.
I would just like to advice you to try to avoid all stress, external or internal, as much as you can. You know what its like to be trying for yrs for a child and you have to do all in your power to protect urself and your new baby.
Why not discuss with ur dh how this particular matter is affecting you and the fears you have about it stressing the baby......you both have to come up with a way of staying away from this person for awhile, even if it means you not being there when he is going on about whatever it is that is going on in his life. Maybe he and ur dh could meet outside the house or something and ur dh not discussing the issue with you when he gets back.
Try to take ur mind of negative stuff, watch funny and happy films and shows, read easy novels, romantic ones and start to enjoy being pregnant.
I wish you a healthy pregnancy. God bless you.