To IVF or not

[Charlie68]

I am 39 year old mother of one two year old. My husband and I have been trying for our second this past year and have had 3 missed miscarriages all conceived naturally. Two of the three cytogenics revealed trisomy (one 16 and other 21 and 13). My RE suggests going to IVF for she feels the chances of selecting a higher quality egg will increase my chance of a healthier embryo. Can you tell me if you agree? And, do you have any understanding of what my chances are for a successful pregnancy? we are worried about multiples. What are the statistics for multiples with IVF? I dont think we would be capable to "select", but I dont think we are interested in twins.
Please provide any advice/alternatives and thank you.

[Helen72]

If chances of trisomies are so high for you, with ivf they can do a genetic testing BEFORE the transfer.  That way you can avoid a miscarriage due to a trisomy.

Best of luck with whatever option you decide to pursue.

[lynda544]

I like 40smama, used eggs from a 21 year old. They transfered only 2 (at the time I was upset that they didn't transfer 3) both implanted, but only 1 developed a heart beat. I did not want twins, so I was soooooo relieved. With IVF, you have control over the quality and  number of embryo's. Good luck.

[40smama]

Depending on the quality of the embryos, you can have the option of deciding how many to transfer.  Most re's want to avoid multiple births also.  Usually, however, more embryos are transferred w/women of your age as to increase your chances of having at least one implanting.  In my situation, we transferred one embryo but it came from an egg of a 22 year old so it was of very high quality.  although I would've liked twins, my dh didn't so that's why we went that route.  I think your re's right in that you would have control over the quality of the embryo versus conceiving the 'natural' way.  Good luck to you & ssbd!