advice from women who used donor eggs

[SHP]

I have two frozen embryos left of my own to try before I have to change to something else. I have been unsuccessful for so long.  I am 40 and trying to be real.  I am grieving over this being my last chance to have my own genetic child.  I made the decision to go to a donor egg if this didn't work.  I am not sure that I can afford it but I am investigating - at the very least mentally.  For those of you who have used a donor egg - did you feel any jealousy toward your husband over it being his genetic child and not yours?  Did you tell people that it was not your egg?  What did you or are you going to tell the child?  Just trying to learn and possibly prepare myself

Oh, did many of you have problems getting pregnant with donor eggs?

[RK2014]

Hi all, I had my daughter at 41 naturally, tried for another baby at 43 but was told I was menopausal. I was devastated and looked into other possibilities. I looked into egg donor in December 2011 but convinced myself that we were fine with my daughter. Now, 3 yrs later I have huge regrets! I am now 47 and reconsidering egg donor. Are there any other 47/48 yr olds who have a story to share.

[kaity07]

I think that it doesn't matter who's eggs you have, but when the baby starts growing inside of you then you will feel that the baby is yours. I think that all men are jealous of women because women are the ones carrying the babies in them..... I say GO FOR IT

[nattash]

I`m so sorry to hear that... I would love to use your eggs, thank you so much for what you`re doing, what a gift, the gift of life!

[skyler411]

Hi, I've always said I would be open to adoption even though I'm about to have my fourth child. .I think it's natural for parents to say yes she he has my eyes or and she's just like me..I feel in a way itsa flaw in parenting..when u adopt or use a doner egg..you don't compare the child to  u or other pplein ur family allowing them to be there own person and individual! Most of who you become is enviromental and the baby will be raised by you so odviously  he she Will share your values ..I think it's wonderful and wish you all the luck in the world ..xxx

[JosieK]

I just turned 39 and am in the complete opposite situation. I donated oocytes in the past (tons of them) and produced many blonde/eyed babies. Now I am faced with having adenomyosis. My eggs are perfect, but my uterus needs to be removed. I am choosing to adopt internationally rather than surrogacy because I am single. I am freezing my eggs in case they may be used for future reasearch or for donors in my clinic. Any one needing my eggs I would love for you to have them! Josie

[buggie216]

This is a very interesting post...i have never experienced this but i have two adopted people in my close family. I feel strongly about telling your children only for the fact of medical reasons...while i agree they are your children genetics play a big part in people when it comes to disorders and other things...and while your child may not be effected my something they could carry the gene and pass it onto their children...both people in my family were adopted as infants...one is about to turn 9 and the other is 22...they both know...they have known all along...its nothing to be ashamed of and keep a secret...much like the donor thing. Its actually quite amazing and a positive thing...honesty is always the best policy :)