advice from women who used donor eggs

[SHP]

I have two frozen embryos left of my own to try before I have to change to something else. I have been unsuccessful for so long.  I am 40 and trying to be real.  I am grieving over this being my last chance to have my own genetic child.  I made the decision to go to a donor egg if this didn't work.  I am not sure that I can afford it but I am investigating - at the very least mentally.  For those of you who have used a donor egg - did you feel any jealousy toward your husband over it being his genetic child and not yours?  Did you tell people that it was not your egg?  What did you or are you going to tell the child?  Just trying to learn and possibly prepare myself

Oh, did many of you have problems getting pregnant with donor eggs?

[LisaRG]

My RE told me that even with Donor eggs the baby is considered biologically yours.
The egg itself is someone else's, but your body supplies the blood which means the baby has YOUR blood not to mention your placenta.

[SHP]

Thank you so much for sharing.  All of your stories touched me.  I know it will be ok.  I am going to try my embryos in 2 months but I know that they will not do well.  

I don't know if I want to tell anyone. I am the most open person.  I tell everything on myself - never a secret about me.  I just don't think that I want anyone to know.  Thanks for making me feel like I don't have to tell.  I am not embarrassed to try for me.  I just don't want people talking about my child.

Thank you all again.

[kiaragirl]

Nope...would never tell!!

[astrocat88]

I really don't understand how people "don't tell".  It is a fact that the baby is from a donor ovule and thank goodness for donors!  How can anyone go through life not telling anyone about this.  I'm not talking about the woman at the supermarket that says"ah!  what a cute baby" but your parents, best friend, etc.  And, eventually telling the child.  Why must it be such a dark, unspoken secret?  What is "wrong" with using donor ovules?  Will the child stop loving the Mom who tells him/her, "honey, you are not a product of my ovules?".   I read on some site about Spirit.  The child spirit you were meant to have is thanks to another woman's ovules.  If it weren't for this other women, you wouldn't even have the child!  I feel that we need to give thankful joy to ovule donor women and tell people how wonderful this opportunity is for women who cannot use their ovules; not treat it like something "taboo".   I think we are going through the same acceptance phases of adoption.  Adoption, so long ago, was taboo, but now it is so accepted that people adopt children with other ethnic backgrounds!   We are still not at a point where saying "my child was conceived through donor ovules" is acceptable but it will most certainly be universally acceptable one day very soon!

[lanlan82]

Hi people!!!
WOW $19,000??? It's cheaper come to Brazil and do it here. I'm about to do an IVF and I will be an eggdonor. Here is about $4,500 for an egg receiver.

[tmm0172]

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